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Words in the World of Polyamorous Relationships!

Unlike the typical monogamous relationships where couples are restricted to be with each other and confined to be in a serious committed bond, the world of Polyamorous relationships is comparatively quite vast. The tree of polyamory consists of many branches with slight difference in blossoming the flowers in their own way but belongs to the same root of being in a relationship with more than one person. Polyamory represent a huge, modern and controversial concept since ages and a very few people have tried being in polyamorous relationships and successfully moving forward for happy endings. The remaining people barely have a minimum idea about the deeper terminology of Polyamory!

Clearly, if you want to be that ignorant who thinks that his/her point of view about orientations and relationships is correct and the rest of the world sucks, then you clearly don't have to learn these terms because it is wholly understandable how boring you desire your life to endure! And if you are that one person who wants to explore the options in the world as a part of spreading love and being loved by multiple people, you need to recognize a few words which may aid you to achieve a better idea about Polyamorous relationships! Polyamory starts with an essential foundation of trying open relationships or open marriages. If a devoted couple make a decision to be with someone they like or lust or love romantically, sexually and physically without crossing the emotional bond or commitment between each other, then you can term that couple as Open. This is the initial step of seeking polyamorous relationships. Therefore, if you want to be with someone sexually or romantically or sometimes even emotionally without ruining the bond between you and your loyal partner, then you can proudly consider yourself in an Open-relationship where you possess a clear idea about your limitations.

Fittingly, Polyamorous relationships are those where multiple people committed to each other with proper consent and involves romantically and fall in love with each other in an unbiased manner and maintain the relationship to excel it further by being together in all aspects. Broadly, there are no limitations of numbers in these extreme polyamorous relationships. If you think you can be loved or can love more than two, you can properly fit in the section of Polyamory. Talking about limitations, you may have this doubt about people in polyamory can be with as multiple partners as they can. Definitely, they can and also they can't. Because there is another term called Poly-fidelity which lays restrictions and limitations to a polyamory relationship. Poly-fidelity is all about maintaining the proper etiquette of being in a relationship with restricted multiple partners. Therein, a person is allowed to enjoy an affectionate and intimate relationship with only people involved in a specific polyamorous group. Hence, a person is never allowed to have sex with another person who belongs outside of the polyamorous group. Hence, people in poly-fidelity are confined to be only in a relationship with the other members of the same group. Doesn't it sound like a little monogamy in Polyamory? Indeed, it is. The identical rules, but distinct concept.

We all are aware of couples and thanks to polyamory for introducing the term called"Throuple" in which three persons are committed to each other in every possible way with equal love, care and affection among the three. Nothing but, there's another term you must recognize - Triad relationships. Look at the letter "V." If one person acts as a bridge between an already engaged couple and form a relationship, then those people are considered as being in the Triad. It's completely different from being a throuple. Because, in a triad, two partners who are committed but do not engage with each other anymore because of many personal issues such as lack of love and diminishing sexual attractions, gets equally attracted to the same person. On that account, these two committed partners engage with a similar person sexually, romantically and emotionally without getting apart from each other.

Egalitarian Poly relationships are all about managing the priorities among the members of a polyamorous relationship. In this, a partner need not have to consider other partners as his/her priority. And it is all about acting according to one's wish and basically these poly relationships effects in hierarchy and hereditary levels, which means a partner can consider another partner as a priority if and only if he/she retains a willful passionate relationship or with whom he/she gives a birth to a baby to extend the family tree. The remaining members must act as sleeping partners. Solo Poly is one polyamorous which most of the people follow. Because this is purely an experimental or adventurous kind of polyamorous relationship in which a person doesn't want any strings to be attached. Sincerely, no commitments and no emotional attachments. This is for those independent adults who likes to get interacted with people in polyamorous relationships, mostly for sensual pleasures.

And there is another interesting term called Poly+Mono relationships, basically called as Poly-monogamous relationships. This is when a person in a couple decides to allow his/her partner to try polyamory with others but that particular person remains monogamous forever. This is quite a broad initiative in which a couple decides together to work their relationship in a better way by exploring options but this may end up in a different way, though. These kinds of relationships are a blend of both monogamy and polyamory too. One side you can explore a commitment for life and other side you can follow the exploration of love!

Polyamory represent such a huge concept where there are too many terms coined according to the human interaction with another human in emotional, psychological, personal, sexual, physical and mental ways. Therefore, if you are in a Polyamorous relationship, where do you fit? Or if you want to try polyamory, what do you choose and what kind of person you want to be in a relationship with multiple partners?

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