Which level of outness do you belong to?

Unlike heterosexuals, the open status of sexual orientation carries out a vital role in a queer person's life. Straight people are fortunate enough, not to announce their sexual orientation as heterosexual to the world because their orientation is accepted, followed, and imbibed, by default for ages in humankind. But when it comes to the people who belong to the queer community, the world expects them to announce their sexual orientation, to know their sexual preferences, and also to criticize them openly. That's a sad part of the LGBTQ+ community. People need to come out and say that they are homosexual, bisexual, transsexual, intersexual, pansexual, and even asexual because this makes a person have a particular "Out" status in society.




Being closeted and being open, aren't the only outness statuses in the queer community. There are many other levels included and they swing between the strictly closeted and extremely open. A queer person's public behavior completely depends on these outness levels. All gays of various tribes are considered, as gays personally but in public, their behavioral patterns, lifestyle choices, and preferences depend on their various levels of outness.




Have you ever been with a recreational bisexual, who only gets into the same-sex gender when no one is around him or her? These people are highly restricted and closeted in opening up their sexual orientation. Except for themselves and the person they get into, no other person knows about their true sexual orientation. Because these bisexuals only explore their sexual orientation in between four walls and they don't allow any leakage of information about their true sexuality by hiding under the skin of heterosexuality. These people stay at the extreme level of closeted status.



Not only bisexuals, but many people in our society don't like to reveal their sexual orientation and be open about it, and they don't leave a single clue to people because they don't like to be treated differently. Some are completely discreet. Some are too scared about the judgments in society. Hence, these people don't let other people know about their orientation at all.


Next comes the ones, who only open up with strangers. These people are mostly restricted to dating profiles with faceless display pictures and no bio information. They look for a discreet, no strings attached person for hookups and they reveal their identities and appearances when they meet a person directly. These people are the ones who explore their orientation by hooking up and meeting people from the community. They keep it the low profile, and they only open up to strangers and like to share their side of the story.




Some people are partially open and partially closeted. Currently, half of the queer community is filled with people who swing on this partial level of outness. These people are open up with only a fellow queer person in the community and they maintain their sexual identity hidden from the rest of the world. These people make their presence in private queer parties, discreet queer events, and also behind the masks in pride parades not to reveal, their true sexual orientations to the outside world.




Do you have any queer pal who behaves like the typical gay when he is around his friends and behaves like a typical heterosexual man in front of his parents? These people can win an Oscar for their drastic performance. These are the ones who completely open up to the whole world, with their friends and the queer community but these maintain their sexual orientation hidden with their family and relatives because of their strict environment. Some are scared of facing unfortunate consequences and hence hide their open status from their families. But these are mostly considered as open queer people.




Have you ever heard of Out and proud, but not "Out"? Yeah, this seems a little tricky but these people do exist in the queer community. They are open about their sexual orientation and announce their open status to the whole world including family and friends but these people behave as if they are closeted when they are in public because of their physical and mental weakness. Not everyone is tough enough to handle the judgmental criticism and strong enough to punch the faces of eve-teasers. Hence, to get rid of these unnecessary arguments and fights, they don't present themselves as open queer people through their appearances, dressing sense, lifestyle choices, and preferences. These are queer minimalists and who appreciates their orientations with a limited number of people in their life. Hence, even though they are Out, they don't show off their outness level in public.



Usually, these people participate in queer events; pride parades, go on vacations for the countries which are queer-friendly and also hang out in the restaurants which welcome queer couples without judgments. You can also find them working behind the scenes for the upliftment of the queer community.


Extremeness is in every aspect. And in the queer community, there exists people who are walking open books about their queer lifestyle scenario and their open level of outness. These are out and proud to the core, and they don't give a damn about anyone else, including their family and friends. These people are extremely open about their sexual orientations and try to inspire others to come out of their closets. These are typically the queer conveners, who host prides, who fight against all the odds and who can punch in the faces of judgmental perverts in society. These people spread the normalcy of queer orientations, and they don't step back in equalizing the queer lifestyle with the heterosexual lifestyle. Mostly queer activists belong to this level of outness. They are truly out and fiercely proud of their orientations.




If you think these people don't face the criticism, then you are wrong. Out of everyone else, these extremely open people are the ones who experience the queer life struggles and constantly fight with the society regarding their identities, appearances, behavioral patterns, dressing sense, postures, gestures, and their preferences.


A queer person may belong to any level of outness, mentioned above. No such thing says that closeted people must be ill-treated and open people are the stronger ones. Everyone is queer and appreciates their orientation. It's just a closeted person celebrate his orientation in between four walls whereas an open person celebrates her sexual orientation openly and proudly in public. Simple. Together, everyone is treated as a queer person at the end of the day!


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