When your partner is not confident enough to confess...
And that happens only when your partner does a mistake but denies to accept out of ego, guilt, fear, and sometimes immense respect too. In a romantic relationship when two persons join together as a couple by an intimate bond, it is very common to expect ruptures regardless of love between them. Unlike people who openly communicate everything about each other, a few couples don't like to drag things to another level so that they expect such ripples to be vanished off gradually. So, is it a good thing or a bad thing in a relationship? Forget about the extremes of good and bad, these kinds of couples survive better in their relationships.
According to millennials and the Gen Z generation, this kind of holding back behavior to confess is considered as cowardness, manipulation, and being stuck up forcefully in a relationship. Needless to say, communication plays an important role in flourishing a beautiful relationship but don't you think too much of expressing causes damage to a couple especially when it leads two people to take a dig at each other every time they confess things sharply? Now arises another question that makes you wonder whether you need to react or stay calm even after knowing that your partner is guilty and not ready to confess, something which you know.
Have you ever observed when an old couple fight with each other, in which one person shouts at the other whereas the other person remains calm throughout the whole conversation and within a blink of an eye, everything comes to normal condition and you could witness the same old couple sharing food or doing chores together as if nothing has ever happened? Well, that only happens because one person knows that the other person is not confident enough to confess the mistake meanwhile the other person accepts the mistake by remaining calm or neutral instead of bursting out to cover up the mistake, or trying to confess and add extra fuel to the argument or the fight.
If you have immense respect and trust in your partner, you get all the strength to face any kind of hurdle in a relationship even if your partner himself/herself becomes a barrier for your emotional attachment. Of course, it is toxic to entertain one's partner regardless of one's grave mistakes but when those mistakes were made because of your negligence, recklessness, blind trust, overconfidence, overprotectiveness, and over possessiveness, you need to consider your partner's mistake and rectify in a way so that you both get back to each other without creating disturbances in your relationship. This applies to both partners.
You won't be confident enough to accept a particular accusation in your relationship such as change of behavior, cheating, reduction of affection and attention when you indeed commit such acts in your relationship. But instead of making it a huge fuss in public, if your partner confronts you privately by considering your image and love towards you, then all you need to do is to accept your partner's words by remaining zip-lipped to express your guilt and regret. And some people by default remain calm out of fear and respect.
On the other side, if you find out your partner to be guilty of committing such non-accepting acts in your relationship which questions the romantic bond between you and your partner, you have all the right to confront your partner to clear the dark clouds of your romantic relationship. Getting along with your partner or getting rid of your partner depends on how your partner reacts and how you reciprocate his/her reactions after the confrontation of a particular accusation.
Old school love couples give each other chances to change and try to get back to normality even though it's hard for them to reconsider each other after such a huge mess in their relationships whereas new age modern couples have zero tolerance towards each others' mistakes and mostly, a couple is expected to break a relationship. There are no judgments in both cases because it completely depends on the strength of a relationship and the relationship survival mindset of a couple.
The strength of a relationship increases and becomes stronger day by day, when a couple tries to understand each other, give chances to each other to change, and excel out of mistakes that are committed in a relationship. When your partner is not confident enough to confess the mistake you are particularly aware of him/her committing, confront your partner regarding the situation. If your partner remains calm and says nothing but feels deeply apologetic, then understand your partner's weaknesses and the fluctuating condition of your relationship instead of dragging it to another level. Just ask your partner to look into your eye and tell the truth. That's more than enough to ask a truly loving partner. You generally witness this behavior in old-school love couples.
But on the contrary, if your partner tries to cover up his behavior by throwing blame on you, by spilling baseless statements regarding your commitment, by keeping his weakness forward all the time, by trying to divert the whole scenario, by changing statements effortlessly to manipulate, by doing everything except accepting the mistake, then yes, you don't have to encourage your partner's mistakes. Sadly, these circumstances are mostly seen in new-age modern couples.
Here generations have nothing to do with the relationship survival behavior. It all depends on grabbing the ideologies from earlier generation couples by sticking to each other, giving chances to each other to change and evolve together in a relationship. Confidence in confessing things for any kind of confrontation comes when a person is not guilty. So, be a better partner instead of losing confidence in front of your most loved ones.
