Life is unpredictable and sometimes it may land us at the spots where we get ourselves deeply drenched in love with the wrong people or the right people who travel on wrong paths. No one becomes a drug addict purposely, until and unless that person has nothing to do in one's life and always wants to be in a trance where he never meets the reality around. But what if you happened to be with someone who is a drug addict, especially when you didn't get to know the fact of addiction during the initial days of the relationship?
It's truly a complicated position and for society, it may look like a toxic relationship, and at some points, even you may feel it as toxic, but if you think that you can regain happiness and normality with your partner and if you truly love your partner, then there's no wrong in making your drug addict partner right. And in the queer community, you find drug addicts here and there, especially homosexuals. For starters, it's going to be a difficult journey!
Soon after you find some changes and escaping mechanisms of your partner to get something you don't approve of, be it typical drugs or smokes, or alcohol, you need to start scrutinizing the behavioral patterns of your partner and how he behaves with you if he doesn't get that particular element that makes him calm. Here drugs aren't only about cocaine or marijuana. Medical drugs, steroids, and performance enhancers can also lead a person towards addiction.
Addiction is a psychological disease that needs to be cured in a particular manner. It may start as a fun aspect or something that boosts up a person's inner personality and outer appearance, but if your partner keeps chasing behind any kind of drugs, you need to be aware instead of encouraging him/her more. Maintain the limitations and boundaries when it comes to the intake of substances that take you to the trance world. Never entertain beyond the limits behavior just because you are in love with that person. You must be strict sometimes even though you encounter a little rupture in your relationship.
Speak out and stand against your partner's desires when it is needed, especially when your partner's behavior is slipping out of control. The changes in behavioral patterns must be noticed. If the love of your life showers all his emotions and feelings when in trance and acts opposite when becomes sober and in the position of demanding a resource to get back to trance mood, then you must think about being with such a partner. Indeed, you need to reconsider your relationship because that's not loving, that's being opportunistic. Be aware!
But if your partner remains the same loving person all the time, regardless of one's sobriety, then you need to think about taking your partner out of such addiction chaos. You need to act accordingly and gradually try to change your partner to get back to the normality to have a beautiful relationship ahead. But that's not easy too. Here, you need to be smart, caring, affectionate, and passionate about helping your fellow person. Mostly, you should never give up.
Sometimes you need to be actively supportive instead of acting against and making your partner feels that you don't understand him. With your plan of action, you need to know how to be manipulative enough to meet his needs without intaking drugs. People consume drugs for happiness, satisfaction, to forget any tragic incident, or to remain numb because of one's overtly expressive personality. Well, being a partner, it's your responsibility to get your partner out of such chaos by being beside him/her all the time and take care of your partner's emotional and psychological needs. In simpler words, you need to substitute yourself in the position of drugs. This is a slow process but it works wonders.
Never entertain erotic encounters with your partner under the influence of drugs because this may become a habit and there are chances that your partner may never like to get sensually engaged when sober. And also if your partner tries to mistreat you physically when on drugs, you need to act against it because if you keep allowing it, in turn, it becomes a habit. Never let that happen.
And if you are not that strong enough physically and psychologically to handle your drug addict partner, never hesitate to take support from others. Soon after you realize that your partner is an addict, you should tell that to his/her near and dear, especially family members and a few of your close friends. By doing this, you feel safe and secure for having someone to lean on, when you get exhausted in the process. Strictly speaking, life with an addict sometimes becomes unmanageable and unbearable. So, you must need help and support from the outside world to set your relationship in the right position.
It's hurting and hard enough to make some decisions, especially when you are in love or a relationship with a drug addict. One of such important decisions is, considering the concept of rehabilitation. Most people don't opt for this extreme path where a person needs to be under supervision, observation, and medication. But if the situation demands, you need to be in a position to consider this as an option, because it surely works for any kind of addict. Visiting deaddiction centers, attending group therapies, consulting psychiatrists, undergoing counseling sessions, spending in rehab cares, should become normal in the whole process of getting your partner back to shape.
It is quite normal and okay to be mentally unstable and seeking for help. Until and unless you accept it as a normal process instead of considering it as something abnormal and not a good option, you can never make your drug addict partner come out of addiction. In the process, even though you have to be away from him/her for a few months or years, you must take the charge of uplifting your partner as a person, a sober human being. Love is all about making a few sacrifices and unfortunately, sometimes you also have to sacrifice love for the person you love.
Dealing with a drug addict partner is a deep process; the depth is unpredictable, but if you believe in yourself and your romantic bond, you surely win over the whole process and also can win your partner's heart. It depends on your zeal of surviving a relationship further!