Past relationships are contagiously depressing and disappointing especially when you drag them in front of your current dating partners or your relationship partner. The more you speak less about your past, the more you get benefit out of your present relationship because, unlike in previous eras, everyone wants to live in the moment instead of hearing the rumination of your relationship scenarios with your exes. In the modern dating lifestyle, no one cares how many people you have been in a relationship with before, indeed some may feel distressed if you mention them.
But human tendencies become unstoppable when a person encounters someone to share about everything and it is hard to not open up about exes, especially when you become extra conscious of choosing the right partner and cautious of sending signals of your desires and needs in your next relationship. Well, there is a time to share the past with your present partner and it arrives only after crossing your honeymoon phase of dating. So, initially, people get turned off if you share way too much about your exes. Hence, you need to know how to keep your past relationships in the past.
Be a blank page before going out on a date or before starting a day with your partner because no one likes to scribble on a used paper. Don't fill the stories of your exes in your mind. Erase all of them and be fresh to write a new story with your current partner.
Ignore everything that makes you flash memories with your exes. Strike them off soon after they cross your mind. This will encourage you to divert yourself from unnecessary thoughts that do nothing but ruin your moods. Embrace yourself as a single if you aren't dating anyone or appreciate your evolvement if you are seeing someone.
Stop behaving like a sensitive kid who gets easily triggered by looking at a used chocolate wrapper your ex once gifted to you. Before anything else, store souvenirs that make you feel good about your relationship and yourself. Some people trash all the gifts from their exes but that's ridiculous. Keep the worthiest ones that can be used and also maintain the ones that make you cherish the best parts of your past relationships. Be practical and don't store mere wrappers.
If you are that person who remains in contact with your exes even after breaking up with them, make sure you maintain limitations in having conversations and sharing information regarding your current dating life. Don't ask for unnecessary complications especially if you are emotionally unstable. Respond, react and reply only if you get a call or message. And initiate a chat only when it is substantial for you. Else, stay calm and let your ex breathe so that you can live your dating life happily.
Sometimes cutting people off is a good idea, especially the ones that constantly remind your exes. At least maintain a healthy distance from people whose presence makes you remember your exes. Don't be a people pleaser and don't continue your rapport with the circle you gained from your exes if you feel uncomfortable.
Be mature enough to accept the breakups and mourn your relationship for a good time so that the memories slowly vanish from your mind. Don't rush up and don't avenge. It doesn't support you growing further. Proper confrontations and closure episodes make you realize what you lack in you, what you deserve from your partner and how people evaluate you. Just listen to the opinions and get along with the ones that you feel elevating by dumping the useless allegations.
In this technological era, store your pictures with your exes in cloud memory. You don't have to roam around with a gallery full of images and videos on your smartphone that constantly remind your disordered dating life whenever you unlock your phone!
Stop steering every conversation that ends with your past breakup situations. That's sick and no one entertains your sobbing over your exes constantly. Start understanding from the other person's perspective. Do you feel completely okay if your dating partner compares, talks and supports his/her exes whenever you bring any random topic on the earth? No, right!
Breakups sound tragically soothing over various songs and music. Relate with the sadness but don't continue the mood, especially when you are someone who behaves crazily after gulping a few vodka shots. Stop drunk dialling because it portrays you as nothing but a fool. Do you think your slurred voice may turn on your ex and suddenly that person shows all the concern in the world? Don't be filmy and try to live in reality!
Sex with an ex is enticingly amazing but one shouldn't do it purposely every single time you bump into your exes. It only makes the equations around you more complicated and your mind can never be stable enough to let another person enter your romantic life. Pass a smile or have a small talk over a coffee, that's all enough if you ever meet your ex accidentally.
On top of everything, be emotionally strong enough to take control of your life without investing your feelings in someone who has followed an exit from your romantic life. Because it all depends on you, your mind and your mindset. Until and unless you decide to put your past behind you, you can never enjoy your present and see the future ahead. Any kind of emotion with your exes from your previous relationships undoubtedly affects your current dating lifestyle!