What are the emotions that run in your mind whenever you bump into one of your exes especially when you are with your current partner? It's hard to explain such mixed emotions indeed. Love is an intense emotion that leaves you with too many byproducts in the form of various feelings even though you end your relationship with your partner because the bond may get diluted but the feeling of innocent love remains the same. This is the very reason why every single one of us experiences a bit uneasy and heavy feeling whenever we come across our exes but that heaviness increases when we cross our paths with our exes when we are with our new partners or in new relationships. And this may affect the harmony of your relationship. Hence, you need to know how to handle your exes so that you remain focused on your current partner and in your new relationship!
It's hard for some people to find love after breaking up with someone who they truly loved. If you are a sensitive person and if you know that the existence of your ex around your surroundings makes you drift away from your path, then you must surely get rid of all of your exes. Because it is very easy for you to get back to your painful past no matter how happy you are in your present. So, if you know that you can't handle the idea of your ex, you must find every possible way to keep your ex or exes as far as possible!
Never get confused with your hookup partner, dating partners, and committed partners. Don't club every person you are romantically involved with. Try to categorize people according to the level of romanticism and sometimes eroticism too! Because this gives you a clear picture of treating people, you feel for, be it romantically or sexually. Get some clarity and act!
You can be friends with your exes and people you have dated earlier, only and if you can treat them as friends and nothing more than that. This idea of treating exes as sweet pals after breaking up is such a ridiculous idea because, in the end, all those so-called sweet pals may become your cheating partners especially when you face issues with your current partner. So, until and unless you have a proper hold on your feelings, don't think about transforming your exes into your friends.
Keep this in your mind, love can regenerate and revive old relationships. So, if you get along with that trait of love, you either get completely screwed up by repeating the same old story with your ex or spoiling your chemistry with your current partner or remaining as someone who double-crosses while being in a good relationship. Love can create but at the same, it can destroy too. Be smart enough to employ it properly with the right person instead of wasting it on someone whom you have already decided to leave in your past!
Your exes can be manipulative and also can be jealous of you while seeing you happy with your new partner. So, they may try various possible ways to reach you and rupture your current romantic bond. Before allowing your exes in your life one more time, be aware of the intentions behind his or her approach. Don't create ripples unnecessarily by allowing your exes to throw a stone on your calm relationship!
Inform your current partner everything about all your exes and the reasons behind your breakups. Under the name of vulnerability, share this information (not completely because too much information isn't needed) with your partner and ask him or her to conduct you whenever you think or speak about your exes. If you have an understanding partner, he or she surely directs you not to get back to your past again and again.
Just because you have good intentions about people, it doesn't mean every ex of yours remains the same. So, instead of remaining in touch with your exes out of generosity and kind-heartedness, you must forbid talking and maintaining any kind of contact with your exes, if you want to have your current relationship as a softball. If you like living on the edge, then yeah you can remain in touch with your exes but in the end, all you experience is the disturbance of harmony in your relationship!
Whenever you accidentally bump into your ex, spread a smile, ask his or her whereabouts, and have some heart conversation over coffee as two mature adults instead of engaging in all those games of ignoring, blaming, screaming, shouting, arguing, fighting, and especially misleading your current relationship. You can either be happy for your ex or else you can feel neutral especially when you get to know that he or she is still into you but never feels sad or guilty or regretful about your exes because these diverting feelings may slowly take you back to your exes and that's not a recommended option considering your new relationship!
New relationships are delicately beautiful as blooming flowers. You must handle them with love, affection, and care, if not their petals may get withered. Your happiness and satisfaction in your new relationship mostly depend on your past because you keep comparing the past with the present. If you want to stay happy, keep your past where it has to be. Needless to say, you surely can get back to your past or your ex, if you think that person is well-deserving and worthier than anyone else including your new partner! So, control your mind and act accordingly!