Ways to get along with your 'recovering' queer partner!
More than fun, sometimes love becomes challenging for some people but still, they never give up on their romantic bonds and try their level best to survive their relationships. In the queer community, sad to relate, many people get into various kinds of addictions just to numb their pain and struggle. Compared to heterosexuals, queer people are more forced to get addicted to drugs, alcohol, and party culture. It's hard for a few of them to get back to normality. Including proper rehabilitation and de-addiction rituals, true love and genuine affection may change a person to recover soon. No one is born as an addict and no one chooses to be an addict. It just happens when things go out of hand. Some people are blessed with the emotion of love in the form of a passionate partner. But dealing with a recovering addict is as difficult as dealing with an ongoing drug addict. The pre and post-de-addiction stages are hard to handle.
But if you are that truly loving person who wants to help your partner to recover and who wants to be resilient successfully in your love life with your partner, then you need to know a few ways to get along with the gradual process of recovering to make sure your partner comes back to reality soon. Patience, communication, and understanding capabilities remain the key aspects to focus on.
Never treat your partner as an addict because a recovering person is someone who tries harder to come out of one's addiction state. If you tag your partner as an addict even after the rehabilitation, then there are chances that you may end up triggering your partner. Don't even spill an inappropriate word or a statement that triggers your partner and makes him/her feel guilty.
Change the entire lifestyle scenario. Eliminate a few choices like people, places, and habits. Add on something that refreshes your partner's routine. Include the hobbies that involve you in a different perspective so that your partner could be able to get along with you in various possible ways.
Recovering doesn't mean to be only out of drug addiction. It could be heartbreak, death, professional lows, psychological issues, career hurdles, and many more. Sometimes you may end up dating a person who is freshly recovered from a particular situation in one's life. When you get to know that your partner still needs to be completely recovered, you need to treat your partner as someone who is recovering and needs help in the form of love, affection, and proper care to get out of a particular situation, addiction, or sometimes a particular person.
Some people carry emotional baggage from past relationships, psychological stress from family and friends, personal losses in the form of deaths, and financial losses in the form of various messed-up responsibilities. In a complete picture, all these could be the outcomes of some kind of addiction. Hence, you need to know every single factor that leads your partner towards the direction of addiction and you must be the barrier to divert the path towards recovery. And this happens only when you reveal your heart out and let your partner communicate with you anything under the sky. This way of reciprocating to each other helps your partner recover promptly and also get along with you to revisit the vibes of your romantic relationship.
Recovering is an ongoing process and there is no particular time frame for it, unlike the typical medication. Hence, you should learn the fact that it may take ages for your partner to recover completely, but you need to be patient enough to handle any kind of situation if you love and expect your partner to be in proper shape. You surely feel like quitting and getting rid of your partner and your relationship, but keep calm and think once before making a decision. Your one wrong move may affect a fellow human's life and your one right move may change the entire life beautifully.
Never rush. Never expect change immediately. Never force your partner to do certain things. Never leave your partner alone but at the same time balance it out by leaving your partner alone to have some time to think about one's upliftment. Never impose your relationship as a responsibility because that adds extra stress. Never ask your partner to behave as before because it may make your partner feel worthless. Never compare your partner's recovery process with others. Most importantly, never portray your partner as someone who's recovering from something in front of others, especially outsiders.
Go on a trip because traveling heals any kind of person. Design new routines with new regimes and experimental hobbies. Work out together and try to force yourself with your partner to get into a healthy lifestyle that doesn't involve materialistic pleasures. Plan for a simple near future. Start with smaller things initially. Boost up your partner to get back to normality by leaving all the baggage behind in every possible way. Elevate the confidence levels and escalate the moods of living peacefully with no messy situations. But whatever you do, please make sure you always stay beside your partner and get yourself involved in every activity.
Being together and having someone who loves and cares unconditionally is the best medicine for any recovering person to get back to one's normality quickly. Your involvement in your partner's lifestyle without disturbing, triggering, and demotivating your partner's recovering process is the best way to get along. Within no time, you and your partner may flourish your beautiful relationship together by leaving every unnecessary thing behind. Queer community proved many things to the world, be that truly loving queer person to your partner to prove that love is love and it never quits in tough times!
