Ways to face the bullies at school if you are a gay teen!

Being a teenager is fun but it also acts as a phase that grows a person into someone intensely strong or extremely weak because the psychology of a teenager is quite impulsive, spontaneous, and instant. The decision-making process doesn't involve the thoughts of consequences and criticism. Hence, a teenager must think twice before acting and unfortunately, this kind of thinking comes in a rare phenomenon. That is the very reason why bullies exist at schools who can make other students' lives a living hell with their comments, trolls, calling names, and going to several extremes of physical and mental abuse.

Statistics say almost every gay teenager faces this kind of environment during their education where they spend most of the time with other students, friends, people from different diversities, cultures, traditions, and most importantly mindsets. Not every parent brings up their kids with basic sex knowledge including sexual orientations and gender identities. Hence, students at school remain ignorant regarding the existence of queer orientations. With societal norms and influence, they consider being gay as a reason to bully as if it is something odd, awkward and wrong. Even the school curriculums hardly add queer community topics.

If you are a teenager who is queer, you must keep in mind that when society acts against you and your identity, instead of ignoring and sobbing, try standing for yourself by raising your voice to make sure people respect, accept, and get along with you. Needless to say, you must go through some hurdles, but they are worth facing especially when you realize the change you bring among the people who point fingers at you and try to poke you for being you.

  • Confusion is common to teenagers, but you shouldn't let that state of confusion take advantage of your happiness. Education, career, lifestyle, and life situations come together from various directions to make you confused regarding your priorities. Always make yourself and your happiness a priority.

  • The struggle of coming out could be immensely pressurizing, especially when people you know start doubting your behavioral patterns, fashion choices, and even your interests. You must come out only when you are clear about your orientation and sexual preferences. These basic things give you the strength to face bullies around you.

  • Be strong enough to be with you and you must never give up by escaping, ignoring, and suppressing your emotions when someone mocks you for being you.

  • Make good bonds with people you trust the most. Having a bunch of folks that support you, your orientation, and your existence inevitably makes you look strong. For this to happen, you need to know your crowd who is like-minded, who can think in the broader spectrum, who can protect you, who share similar views, who likes you the way you are, who makes you feel good for being you.

  • You aren't alone who struggles at school during your teenage. Everyone struggles but you as a gay teenager; your struggles include your fight for your identity too. If you ever find someone who feels the same as you, be with that person and grow together stronger. Unity always wins whereas if you don't open yourself, you end up alone and it becomes difficult for you to deal with the people around you, especially at such tender age.

  • Don't involve in fights by getting triggered and offended, instead use your smartness in terms of words, logic, and the fact of being queer is normal. Mental strength and psychological balance are more important than showcasing your physical strength. But when it is needed, defend yourself from physical attacks by your bullies. Show your willpower in every possible way only when it is needed. Elephants won't stop and answer when dogs bark. So, let those bullies know how unbeatable you are.

  • There will be times when you feel abandoned to the core, and in those particular times, you need to grab yourself to fight for your existence. If it becomes too much, try speaking out about the verbal and physical abuse you face at your school premises to the official authorities. And before anything else, talk to your parents about it.

  • Yes, now you may wonder, what if you are closeted and can't be able to announce yourself as a queer person? This case is kind of tricky, but there's always a way to deal with it. If you can't handle it by yourself, take someone's help by opening up about your orientation, and surely they find some way to help you out. Just because you are closeted, it doesn't mean you need to close all the doors without allowing the light to shine upon you.