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Try to find stillness....

Feelings are fluid. They are disturbing. They are convincing. They are diverting. They are diluting. They are too dangerous to handle, but at the same time, they are inescapable too. Yes, feelings are sometimes hard to express and sometimes cannot be hidden. Stillness is one aspect where feelings strive hard to attain. Because that is the most important destination for any feeling to reach. The calmness, the serenity, the austerity, the relaxing factor of undisturbed personality are hard to achieve. And also a person only excels something out of his feelings only when he achieves these elements.

Feeling for someone is a very easy thing. We humans can easily feel the feelings and also express them. The outcome of a feeling is an emotion and the emotions can be delivered properly if we deal them with our values, ethics and our views. And this is one of the main aspects which keep on missing people who commit all the illegal activities which disturb the harmony of our environment. There are a hell lot of feelings a person can be able to feel but there is only one feeling which any person can never get rid of, the emotion of love.

This feeling helped a king to rule the whole world and this very feeling destroyed a whole kingdom of another king. This feeling has two extremes, one can give you a new life and one can take the lives of a countless number of people. Hence, stillness is the only bridge that balances these two extremes which help a person to attain what he wants out of his feelings. The feeling of love is sacred. We come across too many people in life and we may feel the same emotion for a few of them. But, we can find the stillness with only a limited number of people, for some it can be only one person and for some, it can be with a few others. But, to find the stillness in others, a person has to feel it for himself first.

In love, a person's feelings can be diverting, distracting and diluting day by day. But stillness is the only aspect which makes a person love the other person, in the same manner, every single day. No one in this whole world can be perfectly still, calm and fixed on one thing for a long time. If we do that, we can tag ourselves as rocks, not humans. Humans have to work harder to find stillness in love. Sometimes, we overdo the emotion by overprotectiveness, possessiveness, insecurity, and jealousy, and sometimes we ignore the other person's love, care, affection, and efforts. The fun fact is we still can feel whatever we do, be it overdoing the emotion of love or under doing it.

This is when a person must realize the fact of being diverted or distracted or suffocated or pressurized. Because only self-realization helps a person to find the stillness. Sometimes, these emotional traits like ego, bad attitude, loneliness, self-disgust can make a person blind and deaf enough to see or listen to people's suggestions or advises. At the end of the day, a person must recognize himself and realize his misdoings to set the emotion of love back to the track to sustain a relationship and move further.

A person can find stillness in his feelings and emotions through other sources other than himself. They include meditation, listening to soulful songs, traveling to calmest places, preaching the austerity, exploring one's self-consciousness, sometimes a cup of tea in a balcony can make a person realize who he is, what he is doing and what he has to do. Stillness helps a person in clear decision making and also in self-exploration which enhances his/her personality for a better chance.

Some little things have larger effects on a relationship. If you are struggling with your feelings in the concept of love, try to find stillness and attain it by doing something you like, talking to people whom you love the most, maintain the calmness in yourself, take a deep breath and just relax. It sounds like Yoga, and don't you know that Yoga, is all about balance. So do stillness is, all about balancing the emotions.

Even though you travel to either of the extremes in the emotion of love, always try hard enough to reach the bridge to balance your love life, your relationship, your commitments, your partnership. Try to find the stillness to appreciate the emotion of love from a person whom you love and who loves you the most.

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