Tits up...!
Shoulders Straight! Feeling confident enough? Sorry if you got offended with the word "Tits". You must skip reading this blog if you don't want to face the reality. Yes, the reality is fucking raw and sometimes abusive all day all night. But standing for yourself, your dreams and your identity, you must be confident enough to face the deepest shit of your life.
Sometimes, our own face creates a lot of mess and you may end up behind bars without making any mistake. That's how life feeds you with too many bitter experiences. Especially, leading a queer life in a society where, people pinches and pokes you with their sharp tongue with unnecessary comments and ridiculous judgments, that's bitter. But still, there are many people out there who are literally bashing the negativity by dealing pessimism in an optimistic way. These are crude and so real that their reality gets portrayed in a vulgar way all the time. But they always believe in this concept of confidence which makes them feel secure and safe no matter what happen in their lives.
There are a hell lot of sources exist in this world to drag a person down in a life because that's how society runs. It's a fucking emotional competition, which includes jealousy, possessiveness, insecurities and ignorant mindsets. Every time a person emerges and shines out like a gem, people hardly care about the shimmery stuff because they would be already busy in looking into his/her faults. Ignore these timid and brainless souls. Because, that's when you can look confident without any deviations.
And people who are confident are the ones who mostly listen to them and no one else. Because, they don't like giving a damn to others opinions. They matters, but only up to some extent. One must know how to deal with those opinions, whether to carry them forward or else ask the people who are over opinionated to shut their mouths. It depends on how we perceive those opinions too. At the end of the day, if you do what you feel like doing, you feel satisfied, no matter if it turns out to be a biggest blunder of your life. And you can have the zeal to still believe in yourself and go ahead with your own decisions and opinions further in life because you don't have to deal with others. Again, that reflects in boosting your self confidence.
But sometimes, some people stand by your side no matter what. Cherish them always. They are the people who can excel you to reach heights. They see your failures and they witness your success stories too, and yet they always see you in a same way regardless any situation. No matter how self confident a person is, a little validation from a closest person always give a positive boost to explore ourselves in our own way. They make you comfortable with your own brain. They always instruct you to "Tits Up" and be confident before any endeavor you are going to face.
A person may face various kinds of judgmental criticism basing on caste, community, creed, race, religion, orientation, gender, country, continent and sometimes on other ridiculous segments too. Basically getting judged is common and that's sort of necessary too. Because that's how a person can see his position from the point of view of others. But some people easily get deviated and indeed deteriorated with these silly judgments. No matter whatever you do, there will be always someone in the corner to judge you and criticize you. It always depends on how you react to them. If you want to punch every guy you get judged by, then your whole life isn't enough to punch thousands of people out there. So, rather than judging them, ignore them and sarcastically answer them in a way they get to know their standards and your value at the same time. This is how you can build up your confidence. Saying "Tits up" to yourself also helps!
To all the people who are queer out there in any respect, be it because of orientations, mental conditions, physical conditions and in any other way, do not lose your self control, self respect, self confidence and anything related to yourself, because being selfish for your own self always leads you in better paths (only if you choose right directions). Because when no one is there beside you, you must struggle with your own and you must stand still in a confident way, so that no one can exploit you. Whenever you feel low, degraded, disappointed, broken, screwed up and fucked up like crazy, take a deep breath and shout "Tits up" in your head, shoulders straight and go ahead. That's how you must deal yourself to explore your own self..!
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