Tips to recognize the queer juveniles...

The future generation is always important for the development and empowerment of a particular community. The queer community is not an exception in that case. It was difficult and illegal for people to be recognized as a queer in previous eras. Fortunately, things became easy, flexible, legalized, and decriminalized in the current millennial era. Hence, it must be more flexible for the upcoming generation kids to be realized, recognized, and encouraged as true queer personalities. But the current scenario is becoming restricted and rigid for them to identify themselves because of the judgmental criticism, assumptive elders and no proper awareness regarding the sexual orientations and the behavioral patterns which entangled with the gender orientations. Hence, it is the responsibility of people to recognize queer kids and make them comprehend the reality of their personalities.




What will be your reaction if your 12-year-old girl approaches you and tell you that she loves one of her girl pals so much that she can't live without her? Being a gay adult, how will you react if your brother comes to you and confesses to you that he is gay too? How will you manage to react when you get proposed by a 16-year-old teenager to have a bisexual relationship? What if you find your eight-year-old son chooses to wear tulle frocks instead of cowboy suit for a school Fest? Of course, being surprisingly shocked is one common reaction in all these delicate situations but that takes you nowhere. Therefore, one must know how to tackle these juvenile minds to guide them further in the exploration of gender identities and sexual orientations!




Stop assuming all the kids are heterosexual. Indian parents assume a lot and they come to conclusions without knowing the psychology of their children. Gone are those assumptive days. Observe the reality in this millennial era. Don't freak out at the choices of your kids. Recognize the variety of their choices. Focus on their wishes and their smiles. If a Barbie doll is bringing a smile on your four-year-old boy's face. Give it to him without asking silly questions. There's no rule that boys must play football and girls should buy kitchen toys. You need to grow up first to let your kids grow further.




If you see emotional and behavioral changes in your kid, just take some time before reacting. Instead of scolding your girl who asks you to give her a boyish makeover, ask her why she wants it and try to perceive the feelings behind her preferences, likes, dislikes, and choices. Some boys like painting their nails and some girls don't like getting into Indian ethnic wear. At starting, it may irk you off. But try to understand the happiness behind their choices. If you see your boy, happy with his manicured nails but feels awkward because of his peers, it's your responsibility to make him feel fine by saying it's okay!




Behavioral patterns, gestures, postures, dressing attires, hobbies of any kid can let an adult know the gender identity and sexual orientation of a particular kid. You don't have to conclude just because your boy imitates Beyonce, likes to wear cocktail gowns with feminine makeup, and shows his interest in a theatrical drama especially to play the role of Juliet. Try to remain calm and encourage his choices without restricting. Who knows one day he may come to you and tell you he is gay with a smile on his face and without feeling awkward and restricted, don't you think that's all you want from your kid, being honest and happy?