If you are single for various possible reasons and want to get back to the dating world or want to try something new, exciting, and adventurous in your dating life, then you need to expand your dating horizon. If not, you would end up being single all the time, no matter how many people you meet, hook up, and date. Having no restrictions, and having ultimate freedom is the biggest perk of being single. You need to utilize it to elevate your dating scenario.
In the queer community, you can always experiment with your dating preferences, and that's how one must get along with one's singlehood so that at one point in time, you may meet someone worthy enough to be with you. And with too many societal restrictions, virtual connections, and closed surroundings, it becomes difficult for any queer person to date someone new every time. What will you do after you get to know that you have met, dated, and hooked up with everyone around your neighborhood? You look out for someone out of your surroundings right? Well, you need to how to do that by being a queer single who's ready to mingle.
Change your typical mindset and rigid dating standards. If you are stuck up with your same old dating ethics, you can never evolve. So, start implementing some changes to your dating scenario, and everything changes after that automatically.
Please move out of your neighborhood. If everyone knows everyone, it becomes extremely challenging for you to know something and someone new. Geographical locations are important when it comes to expanding your exposure. Don't be a stereotype who only dates someone who belongs to a particular location. That's a narrow approach. If you want to broaden things up, you need to step out of your home and explore people out there.
Don't get too much attached to your favorite cafe and always spend time with the same people, same staff, and same crowd. Go to cafes and restaurants where you find a new crowd. Indeed, start exploring all the queer-friendly cafes in your city or whenever you travel somewhere, search for such cafes and make a visit. Who knows you may meet someone interesting, and things may go further.
After cafes and restaurants, you can encounter the best crowd in bars and clubs. Be it game lounges, smoking zones, or bar tables, you surely bump into someone who looks, sounds, and approach exactly the way how you want your partner to appeal to you! Until and unless you open up yourself in meeting new people in new places, you can never extend your dating radar.
Change the tribe of your partners. Dating hunks, gym rats, and muscular bodies all the time may make you an expert in selecting a protein shake, but you always miss the contexts and content from other tribes in the queer community. If you get stuck up with one type of people, wouldn't you think that you miss a lot out there as the world is blessed with many types of people in the queer community? So make some changes to your tastes and preferences. Allow yourself to get into someone who's out of your dating type. For instance, if you are conscious about looks and don't care whether your partner is dumb, try the opposite, date someone smart and average-looking. You will get to appreciate the other side of the world if you date someone out of your type.
Don't choose the same type of partners all the time because after some time you either get bored or you may run out of choices. Hence, if you are a queer single start making changes to your queer tribe and see how those changes spice up your dating life.
Being in a comfort zone is fine but you shouldn't get overly comfortable and act like a turtle under its shell. If you want to have an adventurous life, you need to do an adventure and be edgy. If you want to settle with someone, you need to take risks; you need to be experimental and you need to come out of your comfort zone to get what you want.
Try to differentiate your needs and try to differentiate your feelings, desires, and preferences according to the people you meet. You can't expect someone who likes to have a fling with you to be your lifetime partner. So, the more segregate and filter out people according to your choices, likes, and dislikes, the more you gain clarity. Ultimately, it expands your exposure.
You can be single and can still expand your dating horizon. You don't have to act unfocused and consider dating irrelevantly just because you have decided to be single for a particular period. Even though you come to an opinion that you don't want to date anyone, having clarity about the person you want, meeting new people, going out for casual dates, and hooking up with no strings attached, won't do any harm to your singlehood. You can still embrace it and can still expand your exposure!