This is why your man's extra chivalrous behavior could be treacherous!
Strictly speaking, most men are chivalrous especially in the eyes of the public to make sure they leave an impression that can never make others doubt their hidden cruel personalities. Men have been using the weapon of chivalry to impress, suppress and deceive people around them for ages but the real victims of such manipulative chivalry are the lovers, partners, or spouses of these men. This isn't something again whole masculinity or targeting men in the entire world. It applies to every single person regardless of gender who uses chivalry as a tactic of oppression. Agree with it or not, femininity is always on the receiving side of chivalry. By default, masculine macho men think of chivalry as their right to portray in front of any effeminate person!
If you are dating a typical male, be it straight or gay or whatever the orientation is if you feel that your boyfriend or partner always suffocates you with his extra care, love, affection, passion, and attention, then, have some clarity regarding his extra chivalrous behavior. Until and unless you need some kind of medical observation or deep emotional attention, you don't have to entertain your boyfriend to take care of every single detail of your routine. Well, do you need someone who cares for you unconditionally or who spies on you under various conditions?
Regrettably, if your man is being extra chivalrous and tries not to miss any detail by being beside you that specify your existence in his territory physically and psychologically, then he is doubtful about your whole persona and hence he acts that he takes care of you even though it is unnecessary for him to escort you for even grocery shopping or being there with you all the time.
Being double-faced in private and public spaces and acting differently chivalrous according to the surroundings and people is too manipulative to handle and that's being extra cautious to keep up the good image in society. When your man opens a car for you soon after you reach any public event and don't even give a damn whether your fingers get accidentally crushed in your bedroom door, you must understand how your man's chivalry is dangerously deceiving. That's not for you, it's for building the social status, public prestige, and gender image in society so that his other side of masculinity can never be disclosed.
Toxic men use the act of chivalry to survive their relationships further even after abusing their partners physically and emotionally. Under the intoxication of substances or the moments of anger or aggression or agitation, some men behave wildly with their partners by using demeaning phrases, by hurting them physically, or by dragging their partners' bad past to degrade them further and to cover all these ridiculous acts they commit at home, they start behaving completely chivalrous during public appearances. They speak as if they are love cupids, they act as if they pamper you constantly, they make people believe that they are the perfect partner material. Don't you think this whole transformation of being toxic in private to being safe in public is a cunning plan of action?
Similarly, some husbands behave like wild pigs with their partners but they enact their lovely dove behavior in front of their partners' family and friends just to make sure that no one should doubt them and their relationship. Heterosexual men are more inclined towards acting chivalrous in public and in front of known near and dear to build up or cover up the personal image in society.
Homosexual men are differently chivalrous towards their effeminate gay partners. They speak lectures about love and they always try to give the world some couple goals so that the world starts believing they are the true epitomes of #loveislove but indeed some of them are true hypocrites. In private they keep complaining about the feminine traits of their partners, they always want them to get along with their masculinity and in the worst cases, they degrade and demean them by comparing them with other gay men. In the queer community, many gay men are quite abusive emotionally and they use their chivalrous behavior on their partners just to make sure they have someone beside them constantly at the end of the day even after sleeping with many other gays.
Regardless of sexual orientation, many men depict their extra chivalrous personality to deceive and manipulate the world outside and their partners inside. So if you are dating or in a relationship with such a man in your romantic life, stop entertaining that baseless fake chivalry by confronting him publicly. But one thing, not every man's chivalry is fake.
And chivalry isn't wrong too. A true chivalrous person knows when to lend his shoulder and when to let you free to explore your emotions and feelings and he always acts the same indoors and outdoors. Most importantly he always makes you feel special, independent, and loved, not by opening the car doors but by broadening the aspect of love in providing immense support in every possible way.
