This is how your partner tries to 'scapegoat' you in your relationship!
Sometimes you can't recognize what happens around you even though the whole world knows about your partner's regular patterns towards you in the scope of making you a victim of his/her mistakes. And when you realize you feel utterly devastated and deeply hurt because of your blind trust, intense faith, and negligence under the name of love. Even though when people around you keep poking you to notice your partner's distracting moves, you wouldn't be in a position to believe them.
Of course, a relationship completely depends on the factor of trust but believing your partner in every possible way could also hurt you psychologically and emotionally. You need to observe a few behavioral patterns of your partner that bother your mental peace and emotional stability. You don't have to compromise your common sense to find what's wrong and what's right just because you are deeply in love with someone. If not, you become a scapegoat and should sacrifice your whole personality in the eyes of the world. Hence, you need to be aware of your partner's way of dealing with everything in and around your romantic relationship!
If your partner gets benefitted all the time regardless of his/her/their blunders by manipulating you and if you feel that your partner is trying to cook up some story to conceal the facts, you need to confront it by expressing your doubtfulness regarding any particular matter.
And if your partner is true to you, instead of questioning you back, he will express his feelings or she may give you a proper closure to make you understand but if your partner overreacts and tries to backfire you by opting for the factor of doubtfulness against you by spilling a statement question, "Don't you believe me"? Or "Are you doubting me"? Then you must think about the whole situation.
A clever exploiter inevitably makes you feel bad and disgusted for the things he commits. Scapegoating starts with this particular reverse technique where a person uses the victim card brilliantly to represent you as a victim for his bad depressing moves. Love isn't a game of chess to make moves, it's a beautiful cradle to swing and relax. But if you feel that your partner is making moves, then you need to be alert instead of being dumb.
For instance, if your partner always comes up with a story, no matter what kind of a situation arises in your relationship regarding his/her absence on a particular event or not involving you in other events where your presence wouldn't harm your partner at all, then you need to reconsider your position in your relationship.
Stop believing one person, especially your partner. If you sense something fishy, you need to act upon it. At the end of the day, you, being an individual is more important than being with someone who doesn't deserve one inch of your pure love. So, to protect your inner peace, you need to seek help from outsiders in your relationship because they know things better than you. Moreover, you don't have to believe one person. Seek information from various sources, and you will find the truth about your partner.
Needless to say, that asking the third person about your partner is a flawed approach in a relationship and it also may affect the trust factor but if you keep sensing the same kind of scapegoating vibe from your partner, then you need to speak out and sort things to clear the dark clouds in your relationship.
You can easily be a scapegoat in the hands of a partner who is a top-notch intriguer. Sometimes it's complicated to unleash the reality amidst all those cover-up stories but if you keenly observe you get to know what's what.
If your partner always burdens you or somehow makes you spend on his/her lavish, unnecessary, or sometimes essential expenses to maintain one's lifestyle by explaining to you some kind of struggling stories, then you need to understand the modern form of relationships where two individuals come together with an idea of financial independence. Don't react like a spendthrift, just make your partner perceive this simple relationship monetary theory. Everything falls into place, and you may witness the true colors of your partner.
Similarly, in the aspects of the name, fame, societal standards, and social image. If you are in a relationship even though you are closeted or hidden, you need to reveal your relationship status to at least your close sources. Love must be expressed and shouldn't be suppressed but if your partner consistently makes you suppress it, especially when you are out in public, then you must talk about it because there are people who date multiple others and to hide all those relationships, they try to suppress it by employing divide and rule policy. Be aware of it.
On top of that, most importantly, try to know and show some curiosity in knowing what your partner talks about you. Because commonly most people become scapegoats when their partners portray them in a demeaning and devaluing manner. Even though you maintain good terms with your partner, keep your partner happy, allow individual freedom, if your partner depicts your picture as someone who is restrictive, rigid, complicated, doubtful, devilish, over-possessive, torturous in the eyes of society, then it specifies the clear form of scapegoating you.
To cover one's mistakes, faults, and deceiving personality, some people use pure souls under the name of love, relationship, and commitment to get their things done peacefully, to enjoy their lifestyle happily, and to maintain their image gracefully at the cost of their partners' money, fame and existence. If you sense your partner falls under such a disgusting category, wake up and deal with your partner by being an adult even though the conclusion comes out as a clean breakup. Love isn't always sweet and pure. A few people utilize it as an escape route by making others, scapegoats for their mistakes. BE AWARE!
