Things to keep in mind, if you are a "Throuple"!
For some, the term is new and some, they pretend that they don't know this term at all because they feel scared of people's reactions if they get to know the concept behind the term. Hypocritically, people are aware of threesome sex sessions, but not throuple - where three people come together to be in a romantic relationship with each other. There are many ways for three persons to become a throuple.
A couple with another person whom both of them love equally and treat that particular person as the love of their life. Three persons from various sexual orientations like gay, bisexual and lesbian can also be together as a throuple. Three persons from the same orientation who are connected with every aspect can also be a throuple. And finally, three random strangers who find their missing pieces with each other and want to be emotionally connected can also end up as a throuple. Regardless of various permutations and combinations of being a throuple, it's all about sharing love between three souls and bodies. But there are few things, a throuple must keep in mind and be cautious enough to take their relationship further. First and foremost, understand the normalcy of being a throuple and consider yourself as normal as these regular monogamous couples. If you think you are different and feel weird about your relationship, then you end up giving a chance for people to judge you. Hence, try to roam around and hang out at public places like a normal couple but with two people. Simple!
This doesn't mean that you must consider yourself as a couple. It doesn't work like that. Throuple goals are completely different from the couple's goals and you must act accordingly. Be prepared to handle consequences, pressures, and stress, because comparatively, the levels are higher than in between couples. But, also try to observe the fact that the amount of love, sex and freedom is also higher when compared to couples. The best thing is to never compare yourself with other couples. Like any other couple in love, even throuples work in the same way, with love. But, unlike couples, the byproducts of love can be visible rigorously, which make a throuple go through a lot of roller-coaster emotions in love. Hence, you must be careful enough and know how to handle every emotion with utmost love, care, and affection. Because if one gets hurt, the other two also must suffer though one of them has nothing to do with the outbreak of emotions. So, the triple effect must be considered and tackled carefully.
Never take each other for granted. Polyamory is all about freedom of love and respect for each other's choices and surely not about restricting each other. So, your opinions must allow your partners to feel more loved and bothered instead of being restricted and rigid. Communication is key to any relationship and especially if you follow polyamory and being a throuple, you must focus on talking to each other than keeping it to yourself. Try confronting each other instead of assuming things when you face problems with each other. Never hide anything from each other. Especially if you are a throuple and if two partners hide anything from the other one, it may result in a serious issue. Because no one wants to be left out in a polyamorous relationship. If you are a throuple, never behave as a two-teamed group, because being a throuple is all about being in love together as three. So, do not be biased and partial with one of your partners. This may break the relationship because of that one left out person.
Be open and proud about your relationship. Do not hide, especially in front of your kin and kith. The more you hide, the more you feel like bursting out your feelings. The more you hide, the deeper you get into problems. The more you hide, the lesser you feel confident about your feelings, opinions, decisions and mostly about your love! Explore all the options in sex, dates, and love but do not rush in polyamory. Unlike typical monogamous couple, a throuple involves in dealing mindsets of three people including one's self. When two mindsets cannot be always the same, how can you expect three mindsets in a throuple must come to an opinion soon after a person in a relationship suggest something. So, always be patient enough and give time for things to get shaped up in a way that three people come to one decision at the end.
Never utter phrases like forever and always. Strictly speaking, according to statistics, it's hard for a throuple to last forever and has a perfect ending. Try to live in the moment and improve yourself better to form a strong and inseparable bond. Always keep this in mind, instead of expecting a change from your two partners, be a change as an inspiration and initiation in the relationship so that the other two also try to change themselves and direct the relationship in a correct path. No one can understand your relationship more than you three. So never allow an outsider to deal with your relationship issues especially a person who doesn't even know how a throuple works. If you feel like sharing your problems with others and sort them out, talk to another throuple or else book an appointment for throuple therapy.
In the end, polyamory works only when people are like-minded, understanding, adjusting and ultimately lovable comes together to form a relationship. So, be an inspiring throuple instead of setting a wrong example in society. Because people like you are needed to uplift the open-minded standards of society.
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