Things to consider if you fall for a straight person!
Before continue reading this blog, you must know that sexual orientations are fluid and they are never stable. So, if you believe that heterosexuality must be a constant orientation of a person, then this isn't for you. Many studies have proven the fact that a person who claims to be a heterosexual can be emotionally, physically, and sexually engaged with a queer person. If you are gay or lesbian, you know how it feels getting attracted to a person, but stopping yourself to express it knowing the fact that a person is straight. It feels like an intense pain to be silently appreciating, admiring, and adoring a person, after knowing that you can never end up with that person to share your whole life.
Generally, every gay or lesbian has childhood crushes, and most of them are straight to the core and that's natural. But have you ever expressed it to those people and tried to find out how they would react to it? Do you still have the feelings for your childhood straight crush or do you find someone attractive and appealing who is heterosexual? If you can't resist yourself from falling for straight people all the time, then you must consider a few factors which may make you understand the real scenario.
Not every heterosexual is homophobic or a bully. Most of the straight population in this millennial era is quite supportive of the queer community, and they don't throw tantrums in hanging out with queer people or judge the LGBT community. They are friendly, understanding, caring, protecting, and loving too. And yes, these straight people are the ones who attract homosexuals with their looks and mindsets. C’mon, who can deny a hot guy with the right ideology, and if that guy is a heterosexual, any homosexual can find him adorable for sure.
But, the first factor you must consider is he is a heterosexual and his orientation works differently.
Comprehend the difference between love and friendship. A supporting and caring straight friend can show his/her emotions on you with a pure heart without any romantic intentions. And many instances may make you feel that he/she is maybe interested in you. But without a proper confirmation, you can't conclude and ruin your peace by wandering in la-la land. Take the clues, scrutinize the hints, and try to analyze the bond between you and the straight person you are falling for.
The struggle of expressing emotions is quite understandable because homosexuals never want to lose heterosexuals who are truly supportive and they never want to create ripples. Hence, many gays and lesbians never express their romantic feelings to their straight pals, especially when they know that they are falling for them. Instead of getting scared of unpredictable consequences, you must express your feelings to get proper clarity.
A truly concerned person will never leave you no matter what. He can be your roommate. She can be your colleague. He can be your best friend. She can be your brother's best friend. He can be your senior. She can be your sports companion. He/she can be anyone who is a straight person with whom you feel loved and want to be loved. Irrespective of thinking about what happens next, just go ahead and express your emotions. A matured person can handle it properly if it is a NO and if your straight pal feels the same for you, then you can think about your future by sorting out various options, as heterosexuality isn't constant and he/she can get into the shoes of a bisexual for you! And this scenario is extremely common.
If you are gay and if a random girl approaches you and force you to hang out with her, will you get around with her? Hope, No. Similarly, you can't force a heterosexual person to get engaged with you romantically if he/she never had or will have such views on you. So, respect the orientations and gracefully back off with a smile and continue to remain as a pal by respecting each other. Always remember, your behavior with a fellow straight person reflects the generalization of the LGBT community.
Sometimes we invest our true sacred emotions in completely wrong people. You may find a straight guy as super attractive and if you approach him with a proposal, he may act weird and disgust you annoyingly. Don't get affected by such words and degrade yourself. Instead, you must be proud of yourself to be brave enough to express your feelings. Also remember heterosexuals who degrade homosexuals and feel that every gay and lesbian like to sleep around with straight people, teach them a true lesson by proving that they are not up to your standards.
Straight people find homosexuals as sexual adventures, sensual fantasies, and fetishes. So, be clear which position, you hold in the life of the straight person whom you feel for because some straight men and women like to have sex with gays and lesbians as part of pleasure exchange. Be aware of, manipulate straight people, and don't become their prey and get hurt after you find yourself as a piece of meat in their lives.
Finally, a heterosexual can become a bisexual to be with a homosexual whom he/she has immense and impeccable romantic feelings. If you are in love with a straight person and he/she also happy enough to be in love with you, then make sure that you people are open up to each other about your relationship, to your families, to your friends and the society. It's hard but it's possible too. Before seeing yourself in a stuck-up situation or making yourself a fool, try to work things out in a clear manner.
Many homosexuals feel cheated, used, or left out by many heterosexuals. Falling in love with a person is easy, but being in love with a person is difficult. So, be in love with a person who can handle the difficulties in a relationship not with a person who runs away from the hurdles that society lays. Consider all the factors and most importantly, consider the factor of pain before falling in love with a straight person, because as mentioned earlier, various sexual orientations work in various ways.
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