Things queer couples must consider for publicly displaying affection!

The phrase "Love is in the air" has developed because of the couples who exhibit their love and affection towards each other publicly without hesitating and bothering about the surroundings. Previously, it was typically confined to be a part of a western culture where people were allowed to kiss their spouses publicly. When it comes to the queer community, due to restrictive cultural norms, two men or two women were not allowed to even hold their hands as most of the queer couples used to maintain their relationships in a discreet manner. Things have changed drastically and now in many parts of the world, the LGBTQIA+ community is accepted in every possible way and the queer couples are no more restricted to display their affection towards each other publicly.




Isn't it amazing that two men can hold hands publicly with utmost affection and care, two women can kiss without thinking twice, a bisexual polyamorous couple can portray their innocent intimacy publicly to portray their relationship? Thanks to the change in the queer scenario, now queer couples can publicly display their affection towards each other in various ways. But there are limitations for every emotion and that also implies the emotion of love too and hence, queer must keep a few things in mind before crossing their limitation while publicly displaying affection!




Always be aware of the surroundings, especially be aware of the culture of the place you are in. Many queer couples plan their holidays and vacations in different countries and different locations. Before going to a particular place, learn about the place, the culture, and the ideal mindset of people. Some countries in the middle east and Africa hasn't legalized the existence of queer people among them. Hence, if you display your love intensely in the places where you shouldn't, then you may land up in difficult situations and sometimes you may fall into legal charges too. Hence, plan your vacation to the queer-friendly places and try to make your PDA, look good. Because too much is always bad.



If your partner is uncomfortable in kissing you or wrapping your hands against his/her waist, then don't force him or her to get along with you, just because you want to show off the intimacy of your relationship to people. And most importantly, don't make the people around you feel uncomfortable because of your extra efforts in displaying your affection.


Keep it subtle and simple. Just a peck on your partner's lips and passionate kiss on his/her cheeks would do. Always remember it's publicly displaying affection, not publicly displaying eroticism. There's a huge difference between being passionate and being horny.




You are humans and hence you must maintain the decorum of humankind. Don't degrade yourselves as dogs. Don't bite and don't lick your partners when you are in public. It's beyond the extremes of publicly displaying affection. Moreover, with your cheap publicity actions, you indeed degrade the value of the queer community, and it isn't accepted at all, though you are standing on the land where your orientation is accepted.




Do you get uncomfortable when someone flashes you off his genitals or private skin to you? Exactly, holding and kissing your partner is cool and treated as the emotion of love but hiding behind benches and trees in parks for quickies, making out in public beaches, corners of the restaurants, these actions are treated as the portrayal of your cheap-ass behavior. So control your emotions when you are in public spaces. Of course, you may be a bold couple, but that doesn't mean you start acting like soft porn stars in public.




Watch out for children and the older generation around you when you publicly display your emotion of love in the form of kissing and intimate closeness. There is no rule that every person must accept you. Especially queer couples hardly get appreciation and love from others. Most of the time, we face criticism, judgments, and hatred. You may unknowingly display your affection by hugging or cuddling in public spaces, but some people don't see it like that. They think that you are purposefully doing it and disturbing the harmony. Don't get attacked by outsiders unnecessarily, instead just be aware of people around you!




In the heat of the moments, when you completely drown in the eyes of your partners, the surroundings around you blur out and you see nothing but your partner. In those moments you may do any sensual thing to show your love. But please, hold your emotions till you reach your bedroom. Don't slip in your hands elsewhere other than your own pockets. You may want to feel your partner's hardness, but that's not at all public display of affection.




Age is just a number but sometimes it does matter when you are out among the people in society. You can be a teenage queer couple, matured queer couple, or an old queer couple, and you can happily display your affection towards your partner when you are in private queer events or pride parades or other public spaces which are considered as queer cruising spots. A public kissing scene of an old queer couple inspires the community, but the same thing can be portrayed as vulgarity in the eyes of a mean society. So in this case, age does matter.




Your actions may seduce others, but leave that option for people whether to get inspired or motivated through your PDA. But never show off your intimacy just to seduce others and make others jealous of you. It's ethically wrong, and you may affect the psychology of other people(mostly singles) and in the worst cases, you may make fools out of yourselves by landing in unpredictable situations. Do it for yourself, not for others.




At the same time, do not touch others in the process of displaying your affection. See where your hands are running, look whom you are holding, and focus on the position just beside or near to your partner, not others. In the public spaces on weekends, you may end up blending in the pool of people. So, instead of being affectionate towards your partner, try being protective by holding his/her hand and it is also one form of PDA if you don't know!




Finally, know who you are and keep your name and fame in your mind before displaying intense emotions of love in the form of deep affection. With little negligence, you may lose your reputation and you may become viral on social media or get caught in the hands of journalism. Always see to that your PDA looks cute and emerge you as a power couple, not as a couple who distracts and disturbs the public. Queer couples must take extra care about themselves before publicly displaying affection because we always get surrounded by the eyes who wait for a chance or an opportunity to degrade the queer community!