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The reasons why your partner feels disenchanted with you in your relationship!

Disenchantment is one kind of a disappointment that leads to utmost dissatisfaction and displeasure when it doesn't get noticed or utterly gets neglected. Notably, if it happens between two individuals as a couple, things become ideally worse because of the things that indeed remained best in the past. Habitually, when you don't get something you want after raising your expectations, you feel disastrously disappointed and you may end things but if you feel disenchanted, you see yourself in a critical dilemma between continuing and ending things. Sad to relate, this disenchantment phenomenon can be seen typically in couples that are committed to each other for a long time.






Have you ever asked or confronted your partner regarding his/her/their unlikely behavior around you with a tint of discomfort and hesitance? If you haven't even after observing such change lately, then you could be the first reason for your partner's disenchantment in your relationship. Don't wonder why, because it's a harsh truth to accept one's own mistakes when you purposely or unintentionally create scenarios that may make your partner feel disconnected from you on different levels. Other than you, here are some of the reasons for your partner's disenchantment in your romantic relationship:





  • Not sharing common interests where your partner can barely find the base level to strike up a conversation with you regarding the topics he/she badly wants to discuss with you.

  • Not being available whenever your partner needs you the most, especially in cases where your presence must remain inevitable with no excuses.

  • Not developing the willingness to alter your perspectives regarding your partner's life and lifestyle scenarios especially when your partner expects you to think from his/her perspective at least once in a while.

  • Not prioritizing your partner's likes, dislikes, tastes, preferences, moods, moments, and even memories. Don't you think being consensual is also about discussing each other's wants, desires, and needs?

  • Not embracing your partner's existence by falling into the loop of your busy scheduled lifestyle.



  • Not appreciating your partner's efforts in being with you wholeheartedly committed and devoting your undivided attention. It hurts if a person doesn't get noticed the bare minimum by one's partner for the love, one showers unconditionally.

  • Not expressing your views regarding your partner's personal, professional and psychological scenarios even when your partner approaches you to seek some emotional and mental strength from you.

  • Not being opinionated at all and playing the safe card by remaining silent in every possible case of your relationship just to avoid drama, mess, or fluctuations.

  • Not being open to possibilities in growing inside the relationship by exploring outside of the relationship as the part of couple's goals.

  • Not recognizing your partner's zeal to be with you even after all the mess-ups in and around you and in turn repeatedly complaining about staying intact without getting diverted away from you by handling your tantrums.



  • Not memorizing important dates, times, and moments of your relationship by gradually becoming least bothered about the value of those memories possess.

  • Not realizing your toxic behavior and degrading personality towards your partner by taking your loved one for granted.

  • Not loving the way, you once loved your partner in the initial days of your relationship, not even a little.

  • Not being informative about one's whereabouts even after making plans to spend some time with your partner. In simpler terms, disappear from your partner after planning a date because of your personal and ethical commitments.

  • Not valuing your partner in front of others and other subjects in your life by constantly demeaning your partner's role in your relationship.




  • Not being yourself with your partner by acting rigid and restricted.

  • Not feeling excited about your partner's presence in your life especially when you are expected and supposed to stay positive and happy.

  • Not being supportive of your partner's achievements and not supporting your partner when you are highly expected of being a constant support.

  • Not being YOU, predominantly the way how you used to be with your partner when you both fell in love with each other for the people you both were.





These are some of the significant reasons that make your partner feel disenchanted with you because disappointment arises in a relationship when changes become evidently worse, especially with all the things that formerly used to be the best. Always remember, if you don't remain as the person your partner loves you for, you ultimately become the reason for your partner's disenchantment in being in a relationship with you.





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