Satisfactorily, how do you define happiness in the romantic side of your life? Whatever it is and what kinds of constraints it includes, you need to stick to your definition and must mark that whether all the boxes relating to the happiness in your relationship are getting checked or not. Because more than anything else, the element of happiness is important for a couple to flourish a relationship further. It is sex, for some it is romance, for some, it is caring, for some it is all about time and effort, likewise, many queer couples have various aspects in terms of being happy in a relationship! So, it is extremely significant to know the value of happiness in a relationship.
Know where it lies. The span of your relationship doesn't matter when it comes to recognizing the element of happiness in your bond. A few couples find it on their first date and a few couples can never realize that happiness spark for a very long time. Without finding that element, it becomes tougher for a couple to survive a relationship. So, make efforts and obtain that element. Remember, it could be within you or outside of your relationship too. Just focus on the details and find it.
Appreciate little things, that include every single tiny effort your partner commits to shower love on you. After getting into a relationship, a couple may take each other for granted and start ignoring each other's romantic efforts to showcase one's emotion on the other. If you fail at valuing such efforts, you end up making your partner unhappy.
You can be sad, angry, disgusted, annoyed, and fucked up in a relationship but you should never be unhappy. It may sound simple but if you are not contented in your relationship, there is no point in being in a relationship because happiness is the soul of a romantic bond.
Value each other's definitions of happiness and try to bridge the gap, so that you both can remain happy in your relationship by adding and also eradicating a few elements you both like and dislike. This approach of considering the importance of each other's happiness undoubtedly makes a couple fall in love with each other every single day.
Always remember, your element of happiness can be an irking factor for your partner and your partner's element of happiness may sound utterly ridiculous and invalid, but if you respect each other's opinions, you can always negotiate, sort, and support your romantic bond by making each other happy.
Sometimes, no matter how much effort you put in saving your relationship, your partner may remain unhappy, and instead of forcing, dragging, and chasing behind, you need to act mature and accept the fact of diminishing happiness in your relationship. Even though it takes a couple to break their paths off, it is inevitably suggested to be out of the relationship if you find your partner is unhappy with you.
You can state too many things if someone asks you what you like in your partner but surely run out of words if they pose the question, "why?" Similarly, you can say what you don't like in your relationship but it becomes extremely hard for a person to mention the reasons behind why he or she is unhappy. So, if your partner mentions that he is unhappy, make sure you ask what makes him think so, instead of asking why, because you won't get a proper answer even though you are stubborn about knowing the reason.
It is simple. You can be unhappy all of a sudden and out of nowhere. Instead of looking out for reasons, try to set it right and try to look out for things that make you happy to survive in your relationship with your lovable partner. So, if you ever feel that you are unhappy, accept the feeling the way it is and try to overcome it, instead of ignoring it because this becomes a buildup, and one day you burst it out and ruin the whole relationship.
It is okay to be with your dream partner and still be unhappy. There is no wrong with it and there is not at all wrong with you. Sometimes we land at the person who fulfills every single trait of our dream partner, and we may also fall in love with such a dreamy person but there is no rule that all dreams must come true. Even though your dream of meeting your prince charming may come true but if you ever find that prince not so charming and fall into the loop of unhappiness, act upon it, instead of restricting yourself to suffocate in a relationship without the element of happiness. It's like putting your life at stake. Don't commit such a mistake.
Make sure your happiness doesn't lie in materialistic and bodily pleasures because they are purely temporary, of course, if you look out for temporary happiness, then it's up to you. But to remain happy in a relationship, all you need is a bond in which your partner puts all his efforts to make you feel happy regardless of various negative elements in your relationship.