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The 'D's that surely damage 'You' in your dating life!

Dating life scenarios are reasonably common these days, especially in this fast pace generation where people show more interest in dating than being compatible with one's dating partner. That's the exact reason why many people end up damaging their mental peace by experiencing physical and psychological stress because of the fluctuations in their romantic bonds. Regrettably, some people continue to date people even after facing plenty of breakups instead of finding the drawbacks in their dating life and precisely in themselves.




In a romantic relationship, individuality is important, and that can be elevated through self-love and self-esteem. If you prioritize your partner's needs by compromising your desires and wishes in the fear of facing ruptures in your romantic life, then you end up causing inexplicable damage to yourself and also to your dating life because, by the time you realize the damage, you would be exhausted. This, in turn, makes you get deflected from your dating life which leaves you with no interest in dating and also in people, mostly in love. So, every person needs to recognize some prominent Ds in one's dating life.





Differences:

Adeptly, these are the primary aspects two individuals check with each other before seeing themselves in a bond, but there is a high chance for people to ignore these when they like the other person way too much because of intense infatuation and admirable attraction. Sadly, many people fall in love, get into relationships, move in together, live together, and sometimes get seriously committed under the name of marriage, without decoding the differences. By all means, some differences can be sorted and adjusted accordingly, but a few differences are starker than your relationship.


And these differences are mostly about one's perspective and opinion about a few lifestyle attributes, behavioral patterns, norms, and beliefs of a person that can never be altered. Interfaith, inter-community, inter-caste, and inter-race aren't huge differences when two people fill the void unconditionally with love but if the differences conflict between two mindsets that see things drastically different from one another, then it becomes difficult for a couple and as an individual to have a smooth dating life. So, detect the differences either to mend them if possible or to get away from them completely to spare yourself from self-damage.




Delusions:

These foster illusions of false happiness in any person's life, let alone dating life scenarios. If you have constant complaints about your partner's delusional behavior or if your partner repeatedly forewarns you that you are being delusional, then it is high time for you to think about this aspect decently. Propagating false beliefs in one's mind doesn't make a person happy in any possible way, instead, it worsens one's psychological stability which isn't good at all for leading a dating life. Until and unless you find out the seed of such delusional behavior in you or your partner, instead of ignoring and advancing with the flow the way how it is, you consistently end up creating a damage crack in your romantic life.


Delusions are psychological imbalances and if you keep entertaining them without confronting the inner demons of you or your partner, your dating life gets damaged like a ruined castle. Being doubtful, having trust issues, dealing with commitment issues, being insecure, building false theories, propagating fake situations, falling for wrong influences, and entertaining assumptions, are some of the key symptoms you repeatedly face in your dating life because of you or your partner. Distinguish them and act upon them with strict confrontation, proper psychological assistance, couple counseling, and individual therapy. If not, you end up damaging yourself and your dating life.






Daily routines:

Do you know when two individuals become a loyal couple? It is when they get habituated to each other's personalities and routines completely in a way that they can't live without each other regardless of all the odds in a relationship. Have you ever considered discussing daily routines with your dating partner? No matter whether it is long-distance or live-in or casual or committed, a relationship can flourish only when a couple gets along with each other's routines and regimes. It may seem a trivial concern in the initial days if one finds odd factors with one's partner's routine but it becomes huge when that day arrives when either of you can't stand each other's schedules and regimes.


It doesn't matter if you are a morning person or a night person, introvert or an extrovert, time differences don't count, and distances don't matter if you involve each other in your respective routines that keep the spark alive in your dating life. What's the point of dating, when you remain unavailable to your partner because of your regimes, and what's the use of having a dating partner who doesn't respect your routines at all? If you are dating someone, discuss your daily life and how you live a typical day instead of just showcasing your most happening side because you can't be on a vacation by relaxing your daily life routines right? Don't restrict your daily routines for any person and don't ask someone to give up on one's daily routines. If you can't get habituated with your daily dating routine, then stop dating.




Dark thoughts:

Every person has a dark side, but one must know how to control and regulate it by constantly working on it. Dark thoughts are odd to handle and sometimes we don't feel like expressing them to our loved ones in the fear of losing them but if we keep entertaining them, we may lose our loved ones either by becoming a threat to them or by making them manipulate us. If you feel you are getting attracted to those deep thoughts that are abnormal for any human being, you need to speak about them openly either with your partner or someone else, so that you won't end up being alone struggling, and inflicting fluctuations in your dating life. These thoughts could be out of emotional trauma, hormonal imbalances, psychological stress, physical abuse, professional hurdles, personal choices, etc. Regardless of thinking how people judge you, it is always recommended to express your thoughts and seek help to have a balanced dating life. Also, if your partner struggles with such dark thoughts, it is important to speak about them without devaluing and demeaning your partner's thoughts. If you don't act upon these thoughts, you cause severe damage to yourself and your dating life.





Distractions:

The deviations in one's dating life are typical predominantly in this current generation because unlike in previous eras people have way too many options in choosing their respective dating partners. Hence, a person is likely to get distracted easily in terms of sex, money, name, and fame. But dating is all about love, trust, passion, and affection, not only lust. Unfortunately, most people chase lustful factors to fulfill their goals under the name of love. Strictly speaking, dating becomes an easier path for people to masquerade their fake love. Hence, you need to track your distractions and also your dating partner's deviations.


We, humans, are flexible, feasible, and accessible enough to get distracted often even after possessing, achieving, and gaining what we contemplate. But that's a flawed approach with tints of greediness and infidelity. So if you date someone, make sure you don't get distracted by others, especially for instant sex and easy growth when you have someone who truly cares and loves you the way you are. Plus, if you feel that your partner constantly gets deviated away from you even after trying your level best to provide everything your partner expects from you, then you need to get away from such dating partners before damaging yourself and your ideology about dating. True love filters distractions and never allows any kind of deviations but if you experience them, then you must be aware of yourself, your dating partner, and your dating scenario.




Hope these 'D's doesn't damage you in your dating life!



 

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