The bisexual tribes based on circumstances and conditions!!
We all know the tribes in every sexual orientation are segregated based on body types, hair types, personality interests, and most sexual, physical, and emotional preferences. It's the same with any orientation, from the queer community. But do you know, there are two dark tribes which are completely classified based on the circumstances and conditions, a person faces in one's life? Well, these are mostly untold because you can find these people in the darkest corners of the closets like a small box of cuff links. Hard to find but still make their presence in the community.
Unlike other orientations, bisexuals are mainly classified as open and closeted tribes. Because bisexuality is one orientation, which some people try to camouflage it in society to get along with others to lead a non-controversial life. But not everyone is like that. You can find many open bisexuals who tag themselves as true bisexuals and explore their orientation. Circumstantial bisexuals and Conditional bisexuals are the two sub-classified tribes that belong to the closeted bisexual tribe.
These can be among us and with us who can blend their orientation so beautifully without letting another person recognize the true sexual identity. Though some of them appear to be doubtful to others, somehow they manage to look like a true heterosexual in society. That's the power of circumstances and conditions; they can suppress a person's identity and also can break through them to shine like a different person altogether. Regrettably, when it comes to these two bisexual tribes, the choice of getting oppressed by conditions and circumstances, play a prominent role!
So, have you ever studied in a gender-segregated residential school where you either find only dicks roaming or else vaginas? Or have you ever got enrolled in defense training where you need to share space with a bunch of men or women together? Sorry for mentioning this, have you ever heard of inside jail stories, especially intimate affairs among prisoners? These questions must have surely dropped some sixth sense in you to find out the point, aren't they?
Circumstantial bisexuals are primarily heterosexuals who get sexually, physically and for time being emotionally engaged with same-sex men or women, because of the unavailability of opposite-sex partners to fulfill the erotic desires. Okay, now all you gays and lesbians who had intimate engagements in childhood must be thinking whether your first love is a circumstantial bisexual. Well, if he/she is claiming to be a heterosexual now without giving a damn about the history between you, then yes, that person is a true circumstantial bisexual.
Army, Navy and Air force, defense system come up with strict rules and regulations under the disciplinary actions to maintain the proper decorum. In these modes of rigidity, a person may feel stressed and want to relieve it through some sensuality. Unless a person is a gay who can easily have intimate encounters with same-sex partners, no one else can satisfy their sexual desires. Hence, strictly speaking, some people who just look out for holes and poles, get sexually engaged with same-sex partners. And this is how they become bisexuals. Some may continue it forever, but some may act very spontaneously and move on in life by covering up the past.
It's the same with the residential schools and colleges too. Now, don't start generalizing the whole defense and residential education system as places of bisexual births. It's a personal choice of getting sexually engaged with same-sex partners. Not everyone tilts and lose control over these circumstances to fulfill their sensual desires.
Conditional bisexuals can be heterosexuals or homosexuals who are forced to become bisexuals because of various conditions they encounter in life. Many Indian women and men come under this particular tribe. Especially those hot gigolos who can make both men and women drool over them and spend money to have sexual encounters with them! Yes, a heterosexual man who needs money, gets into the male escorting to satisfy the sexual desires of gay men can be tagged as conditional bisexuals. Though their orientation remains heterosexual, their sexual engagements to end up their financial crisis make them get along with bisexuality.
How many of you think that all the Indian women who are married to men at an early age are heterosexuals? Come out of your shell to witness the fact that most of the women are bisexuals who already had or still having sexual encounters with same-sex partners. Due to family stress, many women are accepting the marital engagements with men for the family prestige by completely suppressing their bisexuality. The most unfortunate part is some of those women also bear children for their husbands to continue the family reign.
It's the same with men too. Many gays are forcefully getting married to women because of their parents' and peers' ridiculous stress. As they left with no options, they are dealing with their lifestyles as bisexuals by sleeping forcefully with women. This is the very reason; we find many married men on dating apps who can't get rid of their homosexual roots and who struggle with their conditional bisexuality.
These two tribes are very delicate, dark, and degrading. These bisexuals are camouflaged and closeted, no matter how much pressure you put on these people, they never come out of the closets. So, try to comprehend them, instead of judging them. Yes, they may surely hurt your feelings, but it's you who have to check with others before getting emotionally involved. Circumstantial bisexuals completely take sex as the topmost priority, so don't expect emotions from them, whereas conditional bisexuals completely take societal status as a topmost priority, so don't expect the bolder moves of coming out of the closet.
Finally, to all the Circumstantial and Conditional bisexuals, never act like a hypocrite. You must not be bold enough to reveal your hidden bisexuality, but you can surely be true to the people whom you physically and emotionally engaged with. So, instead of behaving like a total stranger, try to act like a human and understand the situations. You are on every dating app, and you look for sexual encounters to explore your hidden orientation further. Instead of expecting the transparency from others, try to be at least half-revealing your sexual identity, which will help you and others too! Period!
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