The 5 major blindspots you should never ignore in Love!
Predominantly, these blindspots get ignored constantly by couples because of their emotions and feelings towards each other and unfortunately, these blindspots could turn out to be severe red flags in one's relationship. Couples overlook them by considering the aspect of adjustability in their romantic bonds but sometimes these blindspots become toxic and can harm a person's mental peace altogether which is again the most severe red flag in any relationship. Hence, a couple must find these blindspots and act upon them before it's too late. Blindspots are dangerous especially when your partner lacks understanding of the severity of their existence in your love.
Secrecy:
It's an immensely impractical approach to believe that a relationship could survive on the foundations of secrets. A couple must know almost everything about each other to flourish through the highs and lows of love by considering the pros and cons of each other's personalities. No matter how understanding you are regarding your partner's secretive behaviour, it costs you so much, especially the constant feeling of being an outsider in your relationship. Everyone maintains secrets; some don't talk about their past relationships, and some don't reveal their experiences with a few people. All those little secrets could be handled as you don't have to be bothered about your partner's past until and unless that past harms you. But if your partner refuses to open up about the basic details regarding his personal and professional identity even though you both remain in the relationship for a long time, it stays as a blind spot in your love.
Manipulation:
Even though manipulative behaviour patterns are quite visible in a relationship, the manipulation personality of your partner remains a blind spot in your love, specifically when you keep ignoring the lies, expecting the change in your partner regardless of your consistent efforts, and giving endless chances to survive the relationship. Because after some time, you start buying your partner's manipulative tactics under the name of trust even though deep down you don't trust anymore. Do you think taking forward a romantic bond with too many manipulations could make you sleep in peace? And in the process of getting along with your partner's past manipulative tantrums, you ultimately become doubtful about everything. So, you need to confront the situation as early as possible and make a decision about this particular blindspot in your love.
Heavy Maintenance:
It's not about your's or your partner's high-maintenance elements of lifestyle. Nowadays, everyone works to enjoy a lavish lifestyle without hesitating their partner's and offspring's needs and also to portray their stature in society. No one claims the right to judge your lifestyle needs but if those needs become endless desires and hopeless expectations, then things surely go wrong because your relationship no more spill lovely vibes as you constantly get surrounded with the dream of chasing big things. Heavy maintenance is all about ignoring little things by eradicating the non-materialistic happiness factor. Couples take quite a time to discover this particular blind spot as it is an extension of two individuals' lifestyle scenarios. If you feel having a cup of tea on your balcony over cookies and conversations is a waste of time and instead, you want to attend a meeting or a party that could provide you money or contacts, then your love is under heavy maintenance and it's a blindspot you must work eliminating.
Partiality:
Ethically a couple shouldn't be partial to each other's circles, and they must engage and get along with the people from both sides. Even though you don't like your partner's family or friends, you must never behave rudely toward them especially when you are too lovely to your kin and kith, and also expect your partner to be the same with them. Don't you think it's hypocrisy not to be good to your partner's people but to expect your partner to be good to your people? This biased approach shouldn't be entertained in love and if you are someone who is still okay with your partner's partiality in your relationship scenario, then you must think from the priority perspective and judge the position of your love in your partner's mind. This partial behaviour specifies how much respect you hold in your relationship. So better realise it instead of neglecting it.
Restrictions:
Of course, some restrictions are much needed for a person's safety and security. It feels passionate if your partner restricts you out of protectiveness and a bit of possessiveness in terms of clothing, lifestyle choices, behavioural patterns and level of engagement with random strangers but it is not romantic if your partner restricts you out of jealousy, dominance and toxicity in terms of your career choices, social life and personal growth as an individual. This restrictive behaviour of your partner remains a blindspot if your partner manages to restrict you by using your romantic bond, emotions and future of your relationship. Threatening to end a relationship is a major red flag and if your partner constantly conducts all the restrictions on your love by forcing you to accept his/her terms as some kind of rule in your relationship, then you must think about self-respect and self-esteem. Love never restricts, and it gives all the freedom in the world so that it can explore and evolve strongly and beautifully. What's love if it has rules and restrictions? Be kind to yourself and notice this blind spot as soon as you can.
All these blindspots in love make couples go blind in love. Strictly speaking, to enjoy the beauty of love, one must open one's eyes wide open instead of being blindfolded by dodging the severe issues in one's relationship. Wake up, it's high time!
