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Shunning Judgments...

Should I avoid talking about those mongrels who give me judgmental looks every time I step out? Do I really need to calm down when those annoying people pass comment when I walk? Why shouldn't I stop and fucking slap them when they try to tease me? Why should I ignore them? Is shunning those dumb fuckers is the only way to get rid of them?

Are we still struggling so much to open those windows of hope in the concept of Freedom, Love, expression and open mindedness?

Indeed, yes. Though the human race have traveled so far to the 21st century, the mindsets of people have still stuck up at 13th century. We are in the trance of a developed and modernized society in present scenario. But, we can still sense that pungent smell of judgmental mindsets. Will these people change their mindsets ever? Why are they habituated of keeping a section of people under a roof with moronic rules and regulations? Is people kind of very fine in leading a rat race with their tiny rat mindsets?

After facing too much of criticism and a lot of judgmental satires, I have decided myself not to give a fuck about them at all. I used to stop and give sarcastic and mean comments on those people who used to judge me. Sometimes, I have degraded myself pointing out their financial status and questioning their social status. I used to be literally frustrated and started throwing a lot of tantrums which hurt their inner social ego. Because, I was not the person who has habituated of taking shit from people. Hence, I have continued myself being that rebellious guy who reverts with some satirical and harsh phrases.

But there is no rule that everyone acts like the way I act with people right. I thought about it. I have jumped myself in the shoes of those Good, humanitarian, sensitive, innocent, calm people. These sets of people actually put themselves in the dilemma of ignoring judgments and answering them in return. They will process everything calmly in mind and never spit words on others which hurts them, though those people were getting screwed up by the society. Some people couldn't even stand up for themselves if something happens which degrade their personality. Change is required and mandatory in this current scenario. People are shouting slogans, doing prides and marches and being themselves for those few hours of walk. But what is happening after that? Do the crowd box other than LGBT community really listening to these who actually work their asses off to enlighten the society and try to encourage others to come out of closets?

I have abused many people in their faces when they used to stare at me like I have done something wrong with their personal life or as if I were running away from paying them. I have come across such mean stares, including people from the educational and polished backgrounds.

To know about a few people, we should get into the characters of them, so that it would be easier to find out the facts how a person thinks about  another person and how he/she acts in those situations. So I have decided to lessen up the level of the rebellious nature of mine and actually witness the real mindset of these shitty set of people I was working on.

During my travel in the Capital city of India, I have literally faced a lot of narrow minded people and their levels of stupidity. In my findings, the age slot of 40 to 75 are more involved in criticizing and judging LGBT people. Most of them are homophobic and sexually humiliating. Delhi is quite orthodox regarding the queer scenario. Some set of people in Delhi are diluting the meaning of Metropolitan. I came to know about the people in and around Delhi that maintaining a proper gay lifestyle in Delhi is quite hard. Some people really want to explore themselves and their real sides of their sexual orientations. But, because of the societal limitations, all these hidden queer people are acting and mingling with unsophisticated crowd who are judgmental about the community. Society is the reason behind transforming these people into fake, desperate, mean, unworthy, disappointing and most importantly ignorant creatures.

What is that Society? We are a society inundated with the visual.

Why do I think that people never change? Have I taken an initiation to change my way of thinking?

Why do I complain when people judge me? Did I ever stop someone and gave an answer when they judged me?

Why do I degrade myself in front of others and give them an advantage to degrade myself more? Is it because I'm different?

Why should I give a chance to someone to uplift me? Do I really need someone to protect my identity just because my appearance is different?

I have answered myself these questions when I was 17' just before coming out as myself and my own identity regardless my appearance. Because, when people came to know and judge me about my appearance, what was the point in hiding my identity? Answering these questions to my inner soul was quite relaxing, encouraging and empowering. You are also answerable to these questions to your inner soul who wants to come out and stay the way it wants.

Those answers will make you a real person and let shun all those judgments you face every single day. Shunning those judgments isn't that easy to practice but lesser difficult than rocket science.

Try it now.... Try it yourself... Try it today...till you are tired of trying and start shunning the judgmental criticism.

Catch my stories this weekend in my upcoming blogs that how I shunned few judgments during my stay in Delhi... Stay tuned !

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