Next time, never again!
Our failures always make us promise or take an oath regarding ourselves not to repeat the same mistake to get rid of the already experienced downfall in life. Some take them as degrading moments where some consider them as uplifting moments, it purely depends on how a person perceives those failures. We humans can make anything possible if we put our efforts and try our level best, hence, though we encounter various failures in career, we still strive to achieve something but when it comes to relationships, things become quite different.
Most of us fail at succeeding in romantic relationships or taking them further to make them last forever. But most of failing at this regardless of looks, money, name, fame, honesty and all the positive traits in a person. Do you know the reason behind it? Well, we consider others, or our partners or ourselves as the reasons behind these failed relationships, but indeed the constraints involved in love are the main reasons. Have you heard "Million reasons" song by Lady Gaga? If not, listen to it once, put your soul in the lyrics and next time if you think about failing at your relationships, you would think twice to decide something which affects your relationship.
We make mistakes in choosing the right people to share our dreams, passions, lifestyle, and love. We fail at most of them, but every time we do, we learn lessons from our broken relationships but before learning from our mistakes, we go through a lot, indeed a roller coaster journey of emotions. We become those broken souls where we start behaving differently by berating both physical and mental health. Indeed, we do this every single day of Love. Who said, loving others is easy? It includes various emotions to control one's self to maintain balanced all the time.
When a person likes or has lust or falls in love with another person, too many changes can be visible before, during and after the relationship. We ignore, neglect, take others for granted, become overprotective, act over-possessive, behave stubbornly and rudely, turn into a doubtful maniac, grow into a clingy freak, reduce our standards by committing various mistakes to impress our loved ones, transform into a different person, and sometimes emerge as a better person than before, become helpful, act understanding all time, behave with respectful manners and many more. Love can make a person both negative and positive.
No matter how positive you are, all those constraints won't matter when the time comes for you or for your partner to decide to break the relationship. Because negative traits dominate like how pain dominates the pleasure, until and unless it is consensual sex, it doesn't seem better. Taking all this negativity in mind, we humans draw many conclusions after breaking relationships and before realizing truths or lessons behind a particular broken relationship.
Any person who breaks his/her relationship and acts different, sad and tragic, takes an oath my chanting this mantra called "Next time, never again". We chant this particular phrase to keep our emotions control and to keep people away from us to trigger us at our weaknesses in the name of love. We do this to protect ourselves from the same wrath we once have gone through. This helps and keeps a person in his/her boundaries before getting attached to someone easily.
The lessons we learn through our relationships, make us more choosy, more practical and emotional. This is perfectly fine and you come to know your worth and value and how to pick people who befit your worthiness, standards, status and your mindset. But at the same time, relationships are manipulative. They always make a human blind when it's the time of commitment, under the name of love, there are hell lot of chances for us to commit the same mistake we did already.
Because, when a person becomes utmost alert in his preferences and filter out thoroughly, we get demotivated after getting rejected by others or by rejecting others and at the end, unintentionally our psychological self commits to that one person who fits most of the constraints but not the important constraint of being an understanding personality. That is an important aspect for two people to stay in love or committed in a relationship for a long time. Most of us commit this mistake repeatedly and that is one of the reasons, why we end up making the same mistake and having too many breakups in our relationships.
"Next time never again"- this mantra makes a person alert to not commit to someone who cannot understand his/her mentality and total self but unfortunately, most of the people miss this particular trait and select partners from different backgrounds, mindsets, cultures, traditions, countries, locations and many more. With this, a person may experience a different kind of love than the previous one, but not the ultimate love which he/she strive for. So, try focusing on understanding the capabilities part of your next partner rather than other materialistic values.
Hence, never say never, even it is for "Next time never again!"
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