Moods you need to control before trying "One night Stands"!
No matter whatever reasons you have, to get into the typical mode of accepting every one-night stand proposal you come across, always remember that not everyone is made to handle this one-night physical, sensual, mental, and sometimes emotional arrangement! So, you need to focus on your moods before getting into these one-night attachments to get rid of all the unnecessary drama in your life!
Firstly, you must take this guilty dilemma out of your mind regarding the concept of a one-night stand. There's no wrong in looking out for a person with whom you can spend your quality time by opening up better in every possible way without any emotional expectation. People have various demeaning definitions when it comes to these one-night stands, but if you want to try, you need to prepare yourself to accept the concept regardless of people's baseless opinions. Never self-doubt when you want to try something new, even though you can't predict the future consequences!
Don't consider one-night stands as typical random hookups or connections you make to relieve your physical stress and sensual fantasies. You are going to spend a whole night with someone whom you don't know completely. So live the mystery and get along with it even though you know you can't expect any kind of personal information. Instead of just fuck and forget, try living the moments and get some memorable experiences out of sex and conversations too!
Keep all your relationship thoughts out of your personality before meeting your one-night stand partner because if you spill such thoughts, it completely contradicts the whole arrangement. People get into one-night stands to meet some interesting ones, to spend some quality time, and to make interesting conversations. So, don't bore your partner with your knowledge regarding relationships, and most importantly never talk about your screwed-up relationships!
Expectations are null and void in one-night stands. Period. You need to digest this fact. Of course, anything which is out of your expectations and if you encounter an unexpected sweet gesture from your partner, you must appreciate it for sure! Being humans, we generally expect a few things from people we meet, especially from the ones with whom we showcase our naked bodies and vulnerable personalities. Expect respect, consensual sex, trust, and some physical affection. Don't expect long-time cuddles, breakfast in bed, romantic phrases, and emotional drama!
There's a fine line difference between being you and pretending to be you. Every so often you need to pretend as if it isn't you. Lying is different from concealing truths. But yeah, both are kind of dangerously bad too. But most people hide truths about themselves, some of them mention their false identities, some don't like revealing a lot of personal information, some don't talk about anything related to their life scenario. So, act accordingly instead of presenting your true self out there. Control your honesty, extrovert behavior, revealing capabilities, and curiosity levels too.
Do not substitute any kind of feeling with the experience you want to feel out of a one-night stand. Trying one-night stands for moving on from a breakup, to self-validate your worth in bed, to let yourself know how others treat you, to make others and the world know that you are an explorer, is plain stupidity! Don't ever divert your moods on trying one-night stands just to know where you lie in your life. That's toxic indeed.
Instead, focus on your sensual fantasies, erotic pleasures, deep conversations that couldn't be revealed to anyone else in the world except for a random person you like to spend one night with, your broad personality to allow someone to spend some quality time with you, your aspect of exploration when it comes to establishing connections out of nowhere, your perspective towards a healthy, non-emotional, free going dating lifestyle.
One-night stands don't come under the typical dating norms because they primarily fall under the roof of hookups, but you can still treat them as part of your casual dating lifestyle. If you are new to one-night stands, you need to watch every step before connecting to people because sometimes you may fall in love with someone out there. To let it not happen, you must control your emotional attachments, feelings, and gestures. Just keep it simple and somber because that's the whole aspect of one-night stands, to take things simply and never make them complicated by involving deeper romantic emotions!
If you are a pro at it, you know all of these but it's your equal responsibility to let your partners understand how one-night stands work. So don't keep things to yourself and expect emotionless attachments. Spill your clarity and be clear in your dating lifestyle!
