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Level of Hypocrisy - in the mode of Multiple partners ...

Choosing and maintaining multiple partners is the concept that has existed since the ages of sages and gods. The concept got diluted in the process of gaining the population to the degrading human values to fulfill one's sexual desires or to enlarge one's rein of caste or community or creed out of greed. This is always considered as normal in the whole world, though it is quite abnormal in the current scenario after the whole world is already overpopulated. But when it comes to the current situations in a dating scene, the aspect of managing multiple partners is getting considered as a smart move or a bitchy move. Yes, being smart and being bitchy are two opposites and this is where the hypocrisy levels of humankind elevate to something stupid and abnormal.

Imagine a male and a female fall in love with each other and maintain a successful relationship until the entry of another female into that particular male's life. After a few encounters, the male behaves two-timing on both the females until one of them gets to know about the other. This particular drama is considered so cool in the current society because he is a male and there's a partiality for the gender he falls into, just considered as a tactic of masculinity. But imagine the other way around, if a female cheats on his partner no matter whatever the reason could be, she would be treated like a slut straight to the point. Don't you feel the society we are living in, is so hypocritical in its thoughts. Nevertheless, genders and orientations exist in the current scenario, the energies of masculine and feminine are always treated in a completely different way. Masculine energies are allowed to be with multiple partners, whereas the feminine energies would be considered as social demeaning creatures if they commit the same as masculine people. Here, the energies meant the feelings. Tough feelings come under masculine energies, whereas tenderest feelings are considered feminine.

It can be with a male or a female who is having either of the energies. Why it is hard for people to accept polyandry when compared to polygamy? Why we behave as social hypocrites when a woman goes around with multiple partners to choose her soulmate whereas we call it a smart move when a man does the same in being with multiple partners. We are civilized people who still follow the uncivilized rules which have been ruling since ages. Don't you think we should become a bit matured enough to consider both male and female as same in the concept of being with multiple partners?

If you are a male and you don't believe in being with multiple partners, do you think that you have the right to speak against a female who is with her multiple partners just because you are with only one person? Is it out of ethics or mere form of jealousy to cope up with other females around you? And if you are a female who was in a relationship with multiple partners and suddenly chose to be single or with one person, think that you have a right to comment on a fellow female's dating life with her multiple partners? Many cases can be considered if you start thinking with a stone-age mind instead of with a progressive one. There is no mistake in trying multiple partners out to select one or to be with all of them. The mistake lies when you start judging others for the choices they make. Because that's a clear form of hypocrisy and portrays you as a social hypocrite.

If you stick to one policy or a few ethics you always do since childhood, doesn't mean that the others also should follow the same as you. People have their ways of living and trying many things out in their life. Who knows, one day you may also feel like being with multiple partners and what will you do then? Do you judge yourself or remain silent just to support your decisions?

In a relationship, normally guys check out too many girls and they would be treated casually because they are guys and if the same thing girls do by checking out guys, the scenario would be different because the girls could be portrayed as bitches, sluts and whores. It is not only in heterosexual relationships, but it also exists in homosexual and bisexual relationships too. It's just the feminine energies always get targeted intentionally and unintentionally. If a top gay guy sleeps with many other bottoms, he would be treated as a playboy whereas if a bottom guy does the same, he would be treated as an open asshole or a desperate cocksucker. Where is the open-mindedness lies in the queer community too? When it comes to lesbian relationships, the butch females always feel insecure when their partners talk to other females or moving a bit closer to them. Same in bisexuals too, and the funny fact is bisexuals get easily targeted and judged by their same sex partners if they have had multiple partners of the opposite sex.

Regardless, straight or queer, it is everywhere because we are all humans and hypocrites too. It's just we don't have to be a social hypocrite to each other under the name of love and sharing the love with many people. Whether it's sexual or physical or mental or emotional relationships, if a person willing to accept multiple people in his/her life, it is perfectly fine until and unless he/she is not having problems with any of those partners. So, YOUR point of view acts null over here, hence, stop being a social hypocrite towards people with multiple partners. If you believe in dating one person at a time, that's good, but that doesn't mean you need to get offended by other's dating lifestyles. So, keep calm and encourage the world to move the way it wants to.

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