It's common. Sometimes the people from the same community can also end up becoming social hypocrites to each other for the sake of selfishness and to maintain secrets in the aspect of intimacy. Why do they have to become like that? Why can't they open up themselves to others to reduce the miscommunication? Why don't they confront others about their own identities?
I'm just mentioning about the current Gay dating scenario in India. The level of hypocrisy in Gay Community India arises out of stupidity and egotism. In the complete and clear perspective of a Gay person, being myself a gay guy, I can say that, we gays are acting like hypocrites when it comes to this online dating scenario. We know our worth, but we still act desperate. We know what we want, but we still convince ourselves to give what others want. We know who are gays and who are not, but in the heat of the moments, we are totally making ourselves as fools in front of those undeserving yet desperate fuckers in the society. We don't like the act of desperation from others, but we act perfectly as desperate as hell with others. We have our own dating rules and ethics, but we indeed won't follow them. Simply, we want others to reveal themselves, but we won't reveal ourselves.
If you are getting connected to at least one point I have mentioned above, then, yes, accept yourself as a Social Hypocrite in the community. Well, just because I'm writing this article, doesn't mean that I'm an exception. I have literally entertained many people who aren't gay. So, every one of us, somehow becoming a hypocrite and facing hypocrites every single day in this millennial era of Virtual Dating.
Answer to yourself that how many profiles you are going through every single day, which says "No Pic - No Reply" and indeed they don't maintain at least one proper picture of them. Trust me, if we filter the profiles, with this particular phrase, 92% profiles will be out there after filtration. I really want to share something in this category, especially to those dumb fucks who won't follow this rule. In the current scenario, there are many people who don't like getting showcased on these dating yet hookup apps, just because of their own identity issues. Respect them and if they don't reveal themselves after replying to their messages, Leave them. It's that simple. But we are humans right, we have to complicate things.
This is one of a ridiculous form of portraying hypocrisy. The person who uses that particular face won't even have a single clear picture in his profile. When you don't follow the rule you mentioned, how do you even think, people give a damn about you?
Well, let me share my personal experience, if you go through my dating profile, you will understand what kind of bold and no fucks given-person I'm. If I'm not wrong and nit boasting, I get hundreds of unnecessary dick pictures everyday. I mostly ignore those profiles which are quite visible as the most desperate people on earth. But, when I go through some profiles, I really have no words after reading them. The thing is, those are the profiles where the owners of them, mention "Don't ask and send nudes" and indeed they send me their filthy dick pictures without even having my consent. They may think that, I will reply after seeing their weapons, but indeed Ignorance is my weapon. Simple!!
There are many kinds of people I meet every day, virtually through these dating apps. Some people claim to be Open to the society, but restrict themselves in providing their details. Some people act as rigid and weird when the conversation goes to sharing numbers. It's like as if someone is going to track them and hack their personal bank accounts. I understand some people take things slow, but that was not about it. If someone is opening themselves to you clearly, it's a good thing and you should also follow the same, because in Gay Community of India, you hardly meet people who are open and broad minded. Respect the person and reveal your appearance with your identities to have a better communication further. Because, that's where the real side of hypocrites can be seen.
Communication plays prominent role in virtual dating. A clear communication always leads to clear and perfect relationships further. But the gay community completely diluting the concept of communication by adding the tincture of hypocrisy. Be clear about what you want, how you wanted to be treated, which person to get connected with according to your preferences and especially when to strike conversations. That's what knowing another person is all about.
I'm not criticizing the gay dating scenario in India. I just want to say to all those hypocrites, that's the way they are treating others is wrong. We should always treat others in a way how we wanted to be treated. That's basic humanitarian rule. If you want to use another person and his/her emotions to fulfill your desires, then, get ready to face Karma. We are gays and we should not degrade our own dating scenario in front of the society and give them a chance to criticize us even more. Think about this one time, there are many people outside who literally think that getting gays is way easier than getting the girls. The reason behind that statement is we, the gay community, which is giving a chance to others by diluting the word Love with Lust and Dating with Hookup.
Why do we have to behave worthless? Why do we have to behave desperately? Why aren't we opening up ourselves to fellow people? Why aren't we thinking about the word Consent? Why are we becoming social hypocrites to each other?
We are worthier than getting treated as sex toys and stress relievers. We don't have to be desperate to fulfill our sexual pleasures and get ill treated by people later. We don't have to be rigid in the flow of information and become a reason for the miscommunication. We are human beings and we can control ourselves and act according to others consent. We can do better than being hypocrites!