Life is a cycle and it exactly resembles karma, what goes around comes around. But sometimes, things go exactly opposite to it, life becomes elliptical and even karma too, it drifts away a bit, but comes back to normal after testing a person in its elliptical path. Maybe that's the reason, some of the world's biggest space projects have gone wrong, even though they prepared to make their satellites enter spherical paths. That's Karma and something a human can never understand. Getting expertise in space science is way easier than understanding the love life of a person. Because, we are hypocrites, we keep on changing our paths conveniently and complain about the same later. This is a mere form of the stupidity of people in dealing with love, relationships, and breakups.
The interesting and irritating part is we sometimes become hypocrites and ruin our relationships and we feel bad about the same hypocritical behavior of ours but still judge the other person of being a hypocrite. It isn't easy to comprehend love. One must need the utmost patience and dedication to the feelings and emotions of himself and others to reach the position to know a bit about love. We all break up for various reasons like family issues, societal issues, career issues, trust issues, preferential issues, and many more ridiculous materialistic reasons. The breakup could be from one side or a mutual one. No matter what kind of breakup, it could be, breaking up in a relationship affects people who share an emotional bond. But the hypocrisy plays a major role in making those people degraded before and after ending a relationship. Wonder how?
Before a breakup, we always judge our partners and their deeds and somehow we search for the loopholes in the work they do, sometimes our partners could be correct, but to our eyes, they look like someone who commits mistakes all the time. We complain about every single issue, including the things which we like in them before getting into a relationship. For suppose, if you fall for a person who is hardworking enough, it is your work to accept the future consequences of time issues, you shouldn't complain about it, which is hypocrisy. If you are in a relationship with a person who leads a simple life, complaining regarding his denial to fancy parties and flashy people is the least a person can expect, so you must not complain about it, if you do, which means you are contradicting your statements, which is hypocrisy too. Like these, we all become social hypocrites under the influence of people and situations around us and force our partners to be someone they can never be, which leads to a breakup at the end.
Now, after a breakup, one-sided or a mutual one, any person who loved wholeheartedly will feel bad and slowly realize their mistakes. The common mistake would be the hypocritical behavior of a person. Yes, keep calm and think about your recent breakup and slowly travel back to some of the arguments and fights you had with your ex-partner. Sure, you will realize where the mistake has happened. It might be you or it might be your partner, but the reason would be the hypocrisy you have shown to each other in the process of expectations, possessiveness, insecurities, and overpowering attitudes. The funny part in this after breakup phase is we realize our hypocrisy and we act on it to get back to our partners and some of us contradict the statement of "not getting back to an ex" and yeah that is understandable. But in the end, even your efforts lead to misunderstandings and make you behave even more hypocritical than before. Because we humans want to prove the point and expect every single time that the other person should not interrupt us with the points that we couldn't take. Yes, hypocrisy, when you die to prove your point, why can't others do the same? Hence, instead of sorting out things, we lose our patience and we argue by complaining the same points which we wanted to sort it out to get back with our partners.
The people who never want to get back to their partners, even though they realize their mistake of being a hypocrite in a relationship or realizing their partners as hypocrites, just lead another relationship saga with the same formula of hypocrisy. Because neither do they try to sort the things out with their exes nor they accept their mistakes or teach a proper lesson in their partners'. A student will fail again and again if he never learns the subject properly and leaves many chapters unstudied. A person's current breakup depends on past lessons learned from the past breakup. If he is willing to learn, he will excel, if not the life teaches lessons until he accepts the lesson to be learned at any cost.
Always deal with a relationship with a peace of mind and being affectionate. Think twice before you act, do not act double than you should without thinking. This ruins relationships and makes you end up with a breakup. The mistake could be yours or your partner's, but deal it in the same way without being a hypocrite. See everything equally and if you do that, your love life will be always on a spherical path, if not it takes an elliptical path and also takes a long time to get back to its spherical path. Never give a chance to your life to drift its path because of your deeds. Just understand the fact that every person is opinionated and every person, including you must be treated equally especially in the process of surviving a romantic relationship, it is needed to treat your partner the way he/she is and you must try hard to be you at any cost.