It's time to shift the roles - NSFW

What's your sexual role in your relationship or bed? Claiming yourself as top or bottom or versatile as labels in the gay community, need not be stable. Like how orientations are fluid, the sexual roles are also fluid. Today's dominating gay top can be tomorrow's submissive gay bottom. Current active lesbian may get into the shoes of a passive lesbian in her next sex session. There are no restrictions on the roles of sex. But, have you ever given a thought of trying a sexual role that you believed that you could never get into? Do you think that it's a difficult step to take? Why do you have to always receive when you can try giving? Is it becoming weird for you to think about it? Well, sex sounds annoying initially, but the pleasure comes out of it only if a person tries to have it.




Unlike heterosexuals, the queer people can be more flexible and adventurous, especially homosexuals. Strictly speaking, gays and lesbians are blessed with the same kind of genitals. Penises and Vaginas are the elements of gay sex and lesbian sex with a touch of an ass. Then why people restrict themselves to one role? Why don't they get bored with their roles like how they get bored of performing a missionary sex position all the time? Here, sexual psychology plays a vital role in confining a homosexual person to a particular sex role.




Sexual experiments and adventures are much needed for a person to spice up one's sex life, if not sex becomes either overrated or underrated and there are chances that a person may lose his zeal towards sex. Trying rare and difficult sex positions, having sex outdoors and managing quickies are several things that come under sexual adventures. But the real adventure lies in shifting one's sexual role with one's sexual partner. But many people deny doing that because they take it as a sexual mistake than a sexual experiment, especially gays and lesbians.




Versatility in sex lies in exploring every angle and each side of the sensual world. Being versatile doesn't make you attain complete versatility in sex. Because versatile is also a sexual role and hence, shifting roles for a versatile person is all about sticking to one specific role during the whole sex session. In gay sex, the gay tops play an active role in giving sensual pleasure whereas the gay bottoms play an active role in receiving erotic pleasure. But why gay tops and gay bottoms play a passive role in whatever sexual role they are confined to?




Anal sex is the only way of penetrative sex among gays, and it includes an equal amount of pleasure and pain constraints. Gay bottoms are more likely to receive anal sex from their partners, and gay tops are supposed to reach prostrates of their partners through their penises. This is the general scenario in which a gay couple is confined to have sensual pleasure through physical intimacy. Gay tops don't like to get penetrated because it's painful and many top men feel it as an effeminate, submissive, passive, and also the factor which degrades the machismo of a man. Typically, many gay tops deny in giving blowjobs and rim jobs too. All they do is get into foreplay by receiving oral sex and giving anal sex pleasure by penetrating their partners. There are no rules confined for any particular sexual role. Gay tops have to open up themselves to broaden their possibilities of receiving and giving sensual pleasures.




Similarly, gay bottoms are the ones who consider themselves as the main sources of sensual pleasure. They restrict their roles in sex to give their partners blowjobs and take their penises in their butt holes. Changing various sex positions is thrilling, wild, and intense which lets a gay bottom attain a pleasureful orgasm. If you are a gay bottom, didn't you ever feel like receiving a blow job or giving a rim job or penetrating your partner? Why most of the gay bottoms think that they can't get into flip-flop sex?



In this millennial era, the dating scenario includes the hookup culture where certain limitations regarding sex are laid according to the person's choice. A person who doesn't like tasting others' dicks or licking others' bums or achieving painful penetrations, declare himself as a gay top who act as a giver or a person who only penetrates. There are no regulations laid for any sexual role. Any person can do anything in a consensual way.


People are intimidated. They aren't progressive. They like to stick up with their roles as they are habituated of being the same person in every single-sex session. People restrict themselves from experiencing the versatile nature of sex. Have you ever seen an adult actor or actress, confined to the same sexual role in every single flick? A huge NO! In the porn industry, the actors must be flexible enough to experience, entice, and inspire others to encounter every sexual act by opening up themselves for various possibilities.





If you are a person who restricts yourself for a particular sexual role for ages, then it's a high time that you must shift your role at least once a while with your intimate partners to experience every element of sex, be it pain or pleasure. There is no wrong in being a person who gets penetrated after possessing a whole history of powerful penetrations. There is no wrong in taking initiation by having the sex drive by playing an active sexual role. You must be flexible enough psychologically and physically to explore your sensual personality. Try shifting your role from being a receiver to a giver and vice versa, if you like it, then continue your adventures and if you are not comfortable, try analyzing your limitations. Take one step at a time. Don't rush. Stay safe and play hard!


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