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Is it okay to be lovesick?

Yearning for love is something that may disturb you romantically, especially when you feel every aspect of infatuation and attraction regardless of your traits and ethical commitments. When it comes to a few people whose careers are strict enough, whose age always pokes them from inside, and whose surroundings are always filled with rigid near & dear, the question of being romantic becomes a complex task to deal with. Do you know that love has no boundaries and many people from previous eras have proven that point way many times in many possible ways? It is a positive feeling to fall in love with someone whom you like deeply and connect acutely.

When a person feels someone as meticulous, there are chances for that person to beat himself up with all those deeper romantic feelings and get constantly obsessed with the idea of being with that other person in various forms. At this precise moment, even the distance doesn't matter at all and this is how a person becomes lovesick. If you are in that moment right now, you must have surely thought about your feelings, that person, and all the possibilities regarding being with that person. And it is tolerable to ask yourself whether it's okay to be lovesick or not!

Before achieving a solution to this particular question, you need to realize your patterns while being lovesick with your desired lover and those patterns allow you to scrutinize your romantic situation and let you understand the difference between fantasy and reality.

  • You never like to stay away from your lover and always search and sort your schedules to be with your lover no matter what. Here you need to give a thought about your priorities and how you skip your roles and responsibilities to be with your lover.

  • You always try hard to remain in touch with your lover, be it on phone calls or be it meeting every single evening. Here you need to recognize the changes in your timings and the obsession with speaking or seeing your lover.

  • You completely keep your world aside and substitute everything with the person whom you are deeply in love with including the friends you cherish and activities you admire doing. Here you need to observe how a person completely sweeps your whole world with his/her presence in your intimate life.

  • You become a little reckless and neglect other important issues in your personal and professional life. You believe that everything becomes normal if you stay with your lover and you also believe your lover can take away all your worries. Here you need to understand the changes in your personality from being strict to being easygoing and also realize how you start treating your lover as medicine or a solution for your every issue even though deep down you know your lover can't set those issues right.

  • You start receiving observations from people regarding the changes in your behavioral patterns and even though they make you feel uncomfortable and unacceptable, you remain diplomatic and sometimes may strike off all those opinions of people because according to you, your lover's opinion matters the most. Here you need to analyze why others' opinions bother you and also make you feel nothing just because you have someone who loves you deeply.

  • You start planning the future so optimistically but at the same time, you also overthink about unpredictable fears that you may come across pessimistically. Here you need to keep yourself calm and notice your mental health for a while, especially when you excessively think about being with your lover and the consequences that come along.

  • You become utterly upset when you get to know that your lover is not going to talk to you for a few days or when your lover has some professional commitments to deal with even though you people talk to each other and see each other more than often. Here you need to observe how deeply you connect with your lover and how intensely his/her absence affects you in many ways.

  • You become least bothered with your typical routines and regimes. No matter how strong and strict, you once were, all of a sudden, you become someone who can easily skip off or procrastinate or postpone just to be with your lover even though you know you are doing something against your personality and personal ethics. Here you need to focus on the aspect of why your schedules get messed up constantly and at what cost.

All these patterns make you realize that you are going nuts because of one person you are totally in love with and how lovesick you are with your lover. It is fine and good to be lovesick, but it also has its limitations, if not you this whole languishing romantic drama may turn into frustration and being obsessed with your lover, you can't show the frustration on that person and hence, ultimately you end up showing on yourself and the people who remain close to you, like friends and family.

Lovesick is okay until people around you feel sick of your love and sometimes, it may indeed include your partner too. So, be hopelessly romantic when it is desired and you don't have to lose yourself in the process because that's not at all the part of love. And you must be lovesick with your partner in a way that charms up your relationship and it should not irk off your romantic bond!

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