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Is it okay to be discreet in Love?

That diplomatic approach towards your romantic life may make you feel satisfied and happy temporarily but in the long run, do you think your relationship can emerge the way you dream? Unintentionally, you become a bit futuristic when you spend time with someone you desire the most, and finally when you get a chance to explore life with that person, will you be comfortable in keeping that romantic bond as a secret?

A few critical situations may pop up in our lives personally and professionally where we end up choosing the option of managing our romantic life scenarios discreetly even though we don't like that to happen. But if that period gets elongated to farther future, do you think you have the capability to pull off a romantic relationship with your partner by concealing it as a secret to the world? Until and unless you are a spy or a person belonging to the underworld, you really can't pull off this particular romantic situation.

Erotic attractions and intense infatuations may make you feel like accepting the proposal of keeping the passionate bond with your partner a secret but before taking the decision, ask yourself whether it is okay to be discreet in love. Of course, you don't have to let the whole world know about your connections but if you can't introduce your partner to your nearest and dearest, then it suffocates you for sure.

Under many societal norms and influences, people force themselves to remain silent and secret when it comes to their passionate affairs to not affect their careers and family relations. But there follows a situation where you get to choose your partner over the whole world. What will you do? And if you are that person who is willing to allow your desired lover to maintain the relationship secret, do you think your partner will surely choose you over his/her priorities and the world? Well, before concluding this critical romantic situation, pose this question to your partner. If your partner sounds diplomatic, then yes, it is not okay to be discreet at all.

Diplomacy and secrecy have no spots in the frame of love. Even though they come into the picture, you must make sure they shouldn't target your existence in your romantic life. No matter how acutely attracted to your special someone and how deeply connected you feel with your lover, this whole concept of maintaining a discreet mode in intimate life takes you nowhere.

Needless to say, your lover must be your world and you don't have to give a damn whether the world gets to know your relationship or not, but what if you want to showcase your love out in public, what if you need a healthy validation from your dearest pals, what if one day you feel like screaming out loud and announcing the world that you love that person so much? Don't you think this little diplomatic game turns against you and make you lose your partner after developing futuristic expectations?

Lamentably, you will lose that person if he/she remains stubborn enough in being discreet in his/her life and does not want to face consequences because of you. What is love, if it can't be expressed, a mere lie? If you are okay being someone's lesser priority or strictly speaking, someone's mistress or a plain option to get favored materialistically and bodily, then yes, you can get along with that diplomatic discreet mode, but it surely takes an emotional and psychological toll on you!

Many queer people are getting manipulated with this discreet aspect by people who use them for worldly pleasures. When finding someone special becomes difficult in this restricted yet fast modern world, it is effortless to cheat others with romance. Hence, if you are someone who's out and proud, you never have to rush into people who deviate your path and strict your closeted status. After all the struggles you have faced in your life, you deserve someone who doesn't sound diplomatic and urges you to remain in discreet mode romantically.

It is never convenient to be discreet. Under the name of love, if you submit yourself to this delicate romantic situation to endure in love with your desired person, conditionally, then you must know that's not how love evolves. And if you are that person who proposes diplomacy and secrecy in your romantic life, you inevitably end up facing the darkness in your life as you restrict light to shine upon you. Love is not symbolized to be hidden. Period!

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