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Is it dependency or individuality?

Which one do you believe mostly when you feel vulnerable enough to your partner? There are weak moments in every relationship where you may feel extremely delicate with your feelings and all you need is a shoulder to lean on. These are the instances where you may also feel doubtful about your strong personality and fall into the trap of a self-dilemma, especially when you are stubborn or egoistic enough to accept your vulnerability.

Not everyone is graceful, diplomatic, and smooth in their relationships with their partners. Some people are bold, straightforward, strong and always try to exhibit their tough side to their partners. Be it sultry or sturdy, every person has that fragile extreme where it can be triggered easily when life becomes hard enough to deal with! Relationship status matters in these kinds of situations because, unlike singles, people who are committed to their loved ones always have someone to support, boost and take them out of their blues easily.

If you are that person who considers yourself unbreakable, then you must understand and make peace with your personality when you emotionally break yourself with ambivalent feelings and emotions in your life. And it is completely okay to burst out when it is needed and it is absolutely fine to allow your partner to console you and lend his/her shoulder to you. Being that strong personality, even though you are in a relationship with your partner, you don't appreciate being taken care of in every possible way but at a few weak moments, you become extremely vulnerable unintentionally, out of love, trust and affection.

After venting your emotions out, unlike others, you may feel extremely foolish and disgusting for being such a fragile person in front of your lover. But don't you think being emotional is a part of a relationship scenario? Then why do you think about the aspects of individuality and dependency after being vulnerable with your partner? Needless to say, one must not lose one's independent character in the process of working out a relationship and at the same time, it is not wrong to be dependent on your partner, emotionally.

Self-dependency is a beneficial aspect when you feel utterly devastated with your psychological, personal, financial, and social issues but when you are in a relationship and when you face an emotional crisis, instead of beating yourself up inside you, you need to allow your partner to be there for you and that's called being in love. You can't just try to be super individualistic even when you crave someone's touch and most importantly when you have that special someone in your life. This whole thought of maintaining individuality in terms of expressing tender emotions in your relationship by overthinking about the dependent factor from your side is a very flawed approach towards your romantic life.

You can't embrace the fragrance of love when you restrict yourself with some assumptions and think about your individuality. Until and unless you become vulnerable to your partner you never get to witness the reality of love and the person you are in a romantic relationship with. When you can't handle some emotions inside you and when you feel the urge to share those feelings with someone you trust and love the most, you shouldn't stop yourself by getting your individuality in the picture. Dependency in love must be mutual in every perspective. Just because you display a tough personality, you shouldn't always be the person who lends your shoulder to your partner. Sometimes you need to lean on your partner for some emotional support, and it has nothing to do with your individualistic character.

You remain the strong person even though you become vulnerable at times because being strong is not about being tough in every situation. Being strong is all about mending yourself according to your emotional, physical, psychological, and personal needs by giving and receiving love mutually. Your stubbornness and strong ego won't do good for you when you are in a relationship.

So, the answer is, dependency because individuality stops you from being you with your partner but a little emotional dependent factor in you makes you understand how your partner receives you and also makes your partner comprehend your emotional patterns. And that's how your romantic bond becomes intensely indomitable which helps you emerge as a perfect relationship with a few imperfections.

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