How to handle hookups in an emotionless way!

After Mila Kunis and Justin Timberlake's "Friends with benefits" movie, the era of trying random hookups has been escalating till date. But wait, what about the climax of the movie? Are people following the trend of loving the person they hook up with? Well, it happens only in serial hookups with the same person. They say right habituated things are better than new things. But, hookups are never habituated materials. They are like one time use.



Yes, strictly speaking, hookups are those sexual relationships which are instant and easily broken. There shouldn't be any space for emotions because the space must be filled with desires, fantasies and pleasures. But, why people are blending the meanings of both Hookup, and Relationship by using the terminology called "Love"? Because, they simply can't handle the emotions after hooking up with someone they like and totally mistake those emotions to feelings of Love!


Firstly, if you are getting ready to hook up with someone you got attracted to, then you can hardly think about getting into a relationship with that person. Because, if you have feelings for someone, then you will wait for a right moment to make love with that person. Hence, hookups are only about dealing attractions and infatuations. They are not thinking about making babies. So, wake up and control your emotions in few ways, that you shouldn't be mistaken your desires to your feelings.



Hookups are healthy, if they are enacted in a safer way. But they can be emotionally dangerous which may lead you to face too many emotional hurdles. So, prevention is better than cure. Prevent all those extra cheesy elements from you before you think about just hooking up or trying someone physically to fulfill your sexual pleasures.






  • Take things simple and don't complicate by over thinking about your hookup partner.

  • Please don't dream about the sex and get over prepared which indeed leads to performance anxiety. Anxiety leads to curiosity which is totally unnecessary. Because you are hardly moving with your sex partner.

  • Dress up in a very normal way. At the end of the day, you are going to be limited between four walls. And yeah, it's just a hookup, not a date. Be selfish enough to get what you want. You are going for sex, better get it.

  • Don't get into deeper conversations.

  • Don't know him/her so much. Too much information is irrelevant.

  • Get out of the room, then and there, if your, hookup partner utters those three magical words while he/she inside of you.

  • Don't use those cute and smart names for each other. Be matured enough to call with your names.

  • Focus on your fantasies and desires instead of feelings.

  • Treat your so called a lot of hookups like one night stands.

  • Be restricted in sharing your total contact information. This may lead you for post hookup communication, which may lead to something else later.

  • Don't give hints about dating even though you have a crush on the person you are hooking up with. Take some time to analyze him/her.

  • Please don't talk about your ex relationships, because that will create an unnecessary environment which may affect your hookup scene too.

  • Don't talk much about your personal interests and your people. Hookups are meant for sexual pleasures, those aren't meant for matchmaking purposes.

  • Be confident about yourself and stick to the fact that the person is just a passing cloud.

  • Be naughty enough and break the rules of soberness. Be how you wanted to be with someone to explore your sexual orientations and fantasies.

  • At the same time, treat each other with respect and have fun, just fun. Do not dare to exploit each others feelings by over thinking about emotions which run in your mind.

  • Most possibly, avoid cuddling. They are romantic that they can make you fall in love with a person you sleep with.



These are some of the tips only to those people who cannot handle their emotions after every hookup they have with random strangers, crushes and fanatic personalities. So, if you think that you are falling for every single person you are sleeping with, then you must control your emotions by following the above tips. They work like magic! Because, if you treat something as exactly the way it is, without exaggerating, then it is easy to be balanced in emotional attachments. Treat it as a hookup, just sex and nothing more than that !!


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