How to handle an introvert person on dating apps..!
Dating scenario has totally moved into the virtual world now. We have almost stopped considering people in and around our neighborhoods. Many of us even stopped checking out guys and girls in our streets (not talking about eve teasers). Because, instead of knowing an unknown person in person, we are habituated in knowing an unknown person through dating apps in the virtual and technological world. We have many dating apps and many social networking apps to make our work easier and secure too...
Unlike two or three years ago, people are no more dumb in handling these dating apps, fake accounts and cyber crimes too. Thanks for Cyber protection and enlightenment out of many unfortunate incidents in the past. So, now we all have our own types and preferences of people and their preferences too. Hence, we all have various methods of dealing various types of people. Dealing an extrovert is anytime easier than dealing an introvert because the flow of communication is always limited in the aspect of introversion.
Introverts are those people who are less expressive and sometimes feel difficult in expressing their thoughts. It takes a certain period of time to open up. Some introverts are damn sweet when they open up and some introverts sound disgusting and ignorant. So, people feel little uneasy and become impatient when they get to handle them virtually. Nowadays, people are totally judging the social life, looks and most importantly the bio section of a profile. Because, that's how an unknown person actually knows about someone without even asking the person who he/she wants to approach. That's flexible right until and unless you come across a fake account. Be aware!
Imagine, you find a profile interesting, decent and appealing too. But for god's sake, he/she is an introvert and some people mention that in their profiles too. When they mention it and when you approach them and initiate a conversation, you better have a patience to deal them for a while because it is you who approach that person out of your interest. So, here are the few basic things you must keep in mind while talking to an introvert person in a virtual world in dating apps:
No matter who approached who in the first, always sound more interesting than lame, because an introvert's life totally seems lame to any extrovert. So, don't increase the level of lameness with your annoying one liners or with your fake decency.
Strong point. Always be yourself. That will really help any person to open up to you about their personal things and experiences.
If you are an extrovert and you open up so easily and more expressive, don't expect the same behavior with the other person too. At the end of the day, an introvert takes things slow like a tortoise, but they are steady for sure.
Everything to an introvert is time taking process. Taking things slow is his/her mantra not because he/she doesn't believe you, it's just they can't express quickly.
Give their space and don't irritate them always with your annoying yet desperate texts. When they feel the gap, they would surely text you at any moment.
Stop thinking that it is always about them. Try to understand their exposure and the situations they might have raised under.
Understanding his/her little things always gives you big results. They like people who realize their identity and their preferences.
Talk to them about the things that they are interested in. Because, a continuous flow of an interesting topic always makes a person keep engaged with you and get comfortable day by day.
Do not force them ever to do things they are not comfortable in doing. This may increase the communication gap and who knows you may get blocked too.
Instead of telling them to change and ask them to express things what you want to hear, try handling them in a way, how they want to be handled and no one likes to be changed for the sake of an unknown random social stranger on a dating app.
Wait for their messages and wait till the moment they want to talk about something interesting rather than rushing up with things no matter what topic it is. Be it sharing sexual preferences, fantasies and anything related to romanticism.
Introverts are expressive, but they don't know how to express. So help them out to express their inner feelings by making them comfortable and feel that you are trustworthy to share anything they want to say.
Dating apps aren't hookup apps. If you are totally looking for a hookup, say it beforehand rather than making people invest their emotions in you because most of the introverts look for Soulmates than sex-mates. If they also look for a hookup, then it's well and good, but you still need some tactics to make them open up their pants in between four walls. They are physically and emotionally same, time taking!
You don't have to act according to themselves, just act according to yourself by considering their emotional preferences. Most importantly, Patience is the key to handle introverts in dating apps.
People get frustrated when the other person reacts slow and take time to reveal their identities, appearances, likes and dislikes, but if you feel that you are getting connected with the soul of a person, you must have little patience to wait for moments till they open up. And it is quite proven that introverts are better expressed than extroverts if they trust a person totally and feel like sharing their inside out with them. So, yeah, if you need to write a romantic story, a few struggles must always be faced. Hence, with an introvert, your struggles are mostly in testing your patience levels. So, keep calm, be patient enough and show all your love in your messages in a non-flirtatious way to make them believe your honesty and true soul to let them open up to you!
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