How to deal with the 'hall pass' scenario in your relationship!
Have you watched the movie "Hall pass"? Well, almost everyone is aware of the theme of the term even though particularly people aren't aware of this term that can make one's romantic relationship spicier and sometimes may ruin it completely. This scenario is delicate, and it must be handled with maturity and understanding capability. The hall pass is nothing but having a sexual desire for someone out of the relationship, especially on particular personalities, celebrities or someone a person feels sensually attracted to.
It surely promotes a fun aspect in a romantic relationship between two individuals as a couple to allow one's partner to fantasise or sometimes get sexually involved with other people without creating any discomfort or disturbance in an intimate bond. It is reasonably common to desire someone other than your partner and no one wants to lose an opportunity in having sex with some kind of celebrity one is truly attracted to, attached and followed for ages. It's a human tendency of embracing one's erotic fantasies but it is quite a rare situation in any couple, specifically monogamous couples because entertaining one's partner's urge for intimacy with another person is unimaginable. In this modern scenario, couples take things pretty easy and flexible but what if you or your partner constantly entertain that rare aspect of the hall pass scenario in your relationship?
This is when things start to fall apart and couples divert from each other in the search of fulfilling their carnal desires with other people under the name of multiple hall passes in a relationship. Hence, a couple needs to open up about such fragile feelings and know how to deal with them maturely.
Needless to say, communication is key and when you undergo such an urge for someone you desire the most by getting involved romantically or sexually, you must confront the situation without suppressing it. The more you try to hide it, the more your desire becomes deep and it sometimes forces you to take regretful decisions too. So, you need to discuss it openly by explaining what runs in your mind with your partner but before that make sure you are ready to bring this topic out confidently without carrying the guilt further.
Everything concludes if you sit with your partner whom you love the most and talk about your hall pass fantasy with someone you yearn for out of your relationship. It may undoubtedly come as a surprise to your partner and you need to be ready to encounter the situation. So deal with your hall pass scenario by opening up to your partner.
Most people consider this as a fun thing to do to make things brighter in a relationship or to bring a new charm to one's relationship by exploring people outside of a passionate relationship. Some couples follow this hall pass fantasy as a sexual adventure or sexual experiment during vacations or getaways. There is no wrong in it if only the concept of sex is involved in it and when a couple enjoys it once in a lifetime or once in a few years.
But if a couple maintains regularity in imagining other people even if it is just sexual, it specifies the unsatisfactory element in terms of sex between two people. So if you notice that your partner consistently tries to take chances on way too many hall passes, then you need to act upon it by knowing the need for such scenarios even though when the relationship is going smoothly.
At times people complicate things in calm-going relationships by getting along with deviations easily without realising the difficulties they are going to face further. Some people are completely against such hall passes and they strictly come with a "no hall passes allowed" tag whereas some people like to try the concept to make their partners happy or to enjoy some change in sleeping with the most desirable ones. So if your partner is too monogamous and can never imagine about 'hall pass' scenario, you need to kill your fantasies if you value your partner the most and consider your relationship as your top priority.
Never ignore your sweet relationship while searching for some steamy and spicy sex with someone out of your reach and if you are fortunate enough to enjoy such hall pass scenario in your happening relationship, try not to repeat it again and again even though your partner is mature enough to understand you and allow you to fulfil your desires. Altogether, never take an advantage of your partner's maturity.
Because if you enjoy too many hall passes, you feel difficulty passing your partner in every possible way because, by the time you know the severity, you would lose yourself and your partner to these so-called relationship breaks that give pleasure for a while. Moreover, this hall pass scenario is exceptionally rare, come on you can't expect Bradley cooper to cross your path and sleep with you for a night in a row right? Consequently, one must also understand the fiction behind this term.
But if your desired person is someone close to you, someone with whom you work, or one of your partner's friends with whom you experience a crazy sensual tension, someone you always wanted to have sex with but couldn't because of the restrictions around you, it becomes difficult if you entertain such thoughts. Luckily and hypothetically, if you get a chance to fulfil your erotic desire with that other person out of your relationship, make sure you won't do it again even though your partner gives you the freedom of using your hall pass one more time.
These scenarios are purely for fun purposes and to develop the understanding between two people in a relationship. They should never bring a drastic negative change or a huge gap that can never be cemented. These things can be managed only when you acknowledge them with openmindedness and when you broaden your relationship radar instead of being restricted and rigid towards each other in a romantic relationship.
