How to come out of Trivial love !

Trivial Love, the bond which can be toxic for people who are in romantic relationships, because the emotions become insignificant and of less value and importance. And still, people blindly believe to imbibe all the emotions to make their partners happy without considering their happiness. One or the other day, the bond evaporates and leave people in the dark phase. Unlike Love, trivial love is both temporary and permanent.


One way, the couple can travel through the phase of trivial love in their relationship and can come back to the normal phase after rectifying the disturbances in their relationships. The other way, trivial love can make people go away from each other by breaking up the relationships as their permanent solutions to deal with the phase of Trivial Love. Unfortunately, we millennials, totally depending on the latter way. We hardly give a damn about repairing because we are so habituated of replacing, like our smartphones.



But in any pure relationship, in a couple, if one person never wants to give up on another, then that person tries his/her ass off to stay in the relationships and make them last longer, forever and ever. To make it happen, they must come out of the dark phase of trivial love and hence they must follow a few things to get back to a normal shape in their emotional relationships.


  • As efforts play a prominent role in any relationship, one must game up the level of efforts he/she wants his/her, partner, to notice and acknowledge. Faking doesn't help. So one must willfully put extra efforts to impress their partners.

  • Some people act stubborn and stupid in noticing the efforts of their partners. Make them understand your value by making them feel the emptiness of your existence in their life for a few days. Surely, they will notice the absence of your efforts and start acknowledging you further.

  • No one likes to have a monotonous life in terms of love, relationship, and sex. Change your moves and surprise your partner with your new ways of viewing your relationship with him/her. Every day is a brand new day must be your mantra to come out of this dark phase.

  • Start ruminating all the old love memories you shared. Sometimes this will help to sprout the new blossoms in your relationships. Sometimes past helps us to rebuild our future. You just have to focus on your so-called good loving past.

  • Know the heart of your partner and get clarity what's running in his/her mind to have a clear perspective about your next move in your relationship. Put a little effort in knowing your partner even more and know the reasons behind the sudden change of behavioral patterns.

  • Never drag the discussions which lead to arguments. Understand what your partner is expecting from you and sometimes acting according to their wishes by adjusting yourself can make them understand that you want to stay in their lives no matter what.



  • And if breaking up the ways in your relationship is the only thing your partner wants from you, then make that happen by acting in a matured way. We are adults and we need to understand each other's preferences. At the end of the day, deserving capabilities do matter.

  • Allow them to commit a mistake by breaking up with you temporarily. If your partner understands your absence in his/her life, then he/she will surely fall on your lap one day, which means you need to give space for each other by giving a break to your exhausting relationship.

  • If your partner never wants to come back in your life and stay with you like before, then you must understand them and leave their hands permanently. And prepare yourself for an emotional trauma which makes you stronger and better to handle yourself and maybe your next relationship.

  • Deal the trivial love like a phase and overcome such embarrassing, unfortunate and unwanted. All you need to do is to elevate your efforts effortlessly. This is how people can save their relationships from this dark phase of love. A little space and small breaks are the perfect solutions for dealing Trivial love and people can easily come out of it.


We humans are complicated and especially millennial couples are way more complicated in handling their relationships. For us, trivial love is more common. Instead of dealing with it, we escape from it by making a whole lot of drama and by giving ridiculous reasons. Because we focus most on breakups than staying in people's lives no matter what. We always find permanent solutions without trying temporary ones. Let's try fixing relationships by focusing on repairs rather than looking out for replacements. Let's treat humans as humans and not objects. Let's put some more efforts to save our relationships !!





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