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Hints to be given to the Society by the closeted people before coming out...

In this current scenario in India, people are coming out of the closet in a progressive manner. Most of them are living their life in their own way without faking themselves and others too. They have accepted themselves and made people to accept them. If not, they aren't giving a damn about what people think about them. But not everyone is same. There are still a lot of people out there who are closeted and only limited to dating apps. They completely hide their sexual orientations, but indeed they want to reveal themselves to the people who are near and dear to them. The struggles of letting people understand about one's inner thoughts regarding sexual orientations are inexplicable.

But hints are the only impressions which can make people think about what you actually have in your mind. Sometimes, giving hints also can make the other person analyze your situation and come up with a solution of your struggles too. Because sharing the information about struggles can reduce the intensity of dilemma and pain regarding a situation. Here are the few hints which can be given to the people to make them know about what you are and what is on your mind regarding your sexual preferences.

  • Talk about something which belongs to LGBT community more often. Share your feelings about the struggling stories than dating stories. This will make people understand that you feel about the emotions of a queer person and there are also chances that they can get your striving dilemma of coming out of the closet.

  • Share the posts and rainbow stories on your social media accounts to let people know that you are a supporter of the LGBT community. This will also make you engage with the community people and you can mingle with them. And most importantly, people start judging you for your affirmative personality. It is indeed a good sign of making them prepared for the future consequences.

  • Suggest Queer movies to your friends sometimes. Talk about the love and the interest of yours in homosexual love stories. This will unquestionably make them ask you about your sexual orientation soon after you talk to them about LGBT movies. Don't accept the fact that you are in the community. Just let them guess your orientation.

  • Supporting the community in every possible way will make your kin and kith gossip about your sexual orientation. They even start giving hints in return regarding your sexual preferences.

  • Prepare your parents to digest the fact that you are into same sex marriages. Drop them a few hints regarding the current wedding scenario and show disinterest in attending weddings and talking about the weddings for a while. Start telling them the gay wedding stories which are happening all around the world. Try to explain the normality behind the same sex marriages.

  • Be bold enough to say "No" to something you don't like regarding your personal matters. This will make the people around you to give your own space in every aspect be it personal, professional and sexual choices too.

  • If you are a guy who loves make up and have a unique sense of dressing style, start portraying it without hesitating. Initially, you will face too many judgments. But do not give a damn. Just continue with what you have in your mind, regardless people's opinions.

  • If you are a girl who loves wearing shirts and trousers instead of typical ethnic wear, do not step back. Make your people understand that you love to wear clothes which are masculine enough and yes, never compromise about your short hair looks. With this attitude, you can literally tease them to the core, so that they will burst out and ask about your sexual orientation.

  • Don't take things seriously. Speak out serious matters in a very jovial way. Be it with your parents or relatives or friends, always try to crack jokes on heterosexual lifestyle and elevate the topics of homosexuality by including yourself as the one from the community. Who knows, sometimes Jokes may get converted into serious matters.

  • Most importantly, be brave enough to face any consequences. Giving hints regarding your "No fucks given" personality is more important if you want to come out of the closet. Because, people take advantage of you, if you behave like a person who gives a damn to everything.

  • If you are a closeted person and if you want to reveal your hidden sexual orientation of the person who is already open to the society, then just approach the person and let them know how you feel about that particular person. Complimenting or appreciating others personalities definitely shows your kindheartedness and your involvement with the community.

  • If you want to reveal your orientation to the person you like or you have a crush on, healthy flirting is the best way to make them understand that you are interested in them. Hiding your sexual orientation doesn't mean to hide your feelings too. Just approach them, talk to them and flirt with them a bit. The other person will surely understand you, because even that person might be like you in the past.

If you want to reveal your sexual orientation to the people from the LGBTQ community, you don't need to give clues, you can directly approach them and express your feelings because they can understand you and your emotions.

But, to others, you need to try hard to let them know about you, your mindset, your preferences and everything else. Because, not every person can understand the concept of Queer so easily. Some are broad minded and some are not. So, dropping them hints is always a better and safe plan for any closeted person before coming out. Because, these hints can be useful to make you alert about the future consequences which totally depends on the reactions of the people to whom you give hints about your sexual orientation. Basing on their reactions, you can plan out for something bigger later to craft them in a better way to understand your personality.

Rather than coming out to the family and friends, all of a sudden without analyzing their mindsets and to face bad consequences, it's always better to mold people around you according to your mindset to stay happy and accepted further by giving some hints. Because, good things take time. If you are already open to the society, share it with your closeted friends and if you are closeted ones, have some patience to make people comprehend about you.

Don't wait for National Coming Out Day. Come out when you are totally comfortable and sure about yourself and your love towards the person you love.

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