If it isn't painful, it is not loved. Pleasure and pain always travel together, especially when a person shares a romantic love bond with another person. Pain exists in love in various ways. Initially, it exists in struggling with feelings and emotions before getting committed to a person and during the relationship, it exists in understanding and adjusting with the person we love and after the breakup, it exists in getting out of that good old love. Though it gives utmost satisfaction in being loved, it also gives a person a tint of pain in its every stage and especially in its end, the level of pain escalates. But, instead of escaping this pain, a person must embrace it in every possible way to feel the pleasure of love through his/her future partner. Because only pain can give the ray of hope in Love.
Many can't understand this and most of the people deny believing the pain of love because they assume the end of a relationship is the end of the concept of love in their life. Some around us, fail in love after keeping a lot of faith in love, which breaks them apart into pieces and they form an opinion that they can never handle love anymore and they will never fall in love with any person. But this is not exactly the criteria in the future. A person can never resist falling in love with another person in his whole lifetime. Love never dies, only the pain dominates it. Hence, a person should embrace the pain gracefully, with all the tears and memories which make them feel the worth of love.
Yes, thinking about memories gives a lot of pain and that's something any human can never escape from. It's a natural process that a person ruminates the memories which made him fall in love and also come out of the relationship, that's called cherishing and understanding the circumstances. It is needed to know the worth of a person whom we love and the worth of ourselves being in love.
The pain of love is everywhere. After an end of a relationship it exists in everything, the happy pictures, the late-night conversation recordings, the weird screenshots, the quotes you sent to your partner, the songs he dedicated to you, the projects you help each other, the surroundings you roamed, the movies you watched together, the likes, dislikes, preferences, and tastes of your partner, her happy face, his sleepy moods, her annoying arguments, his clueless comments, etc, every single thing around you pinches your every single artery in your heart.
The pain of love comes out as tears rolling down your face, the frustration you show on your family, detachment you portray to your friends, loneliness you feel in doing something you love excessively, the inability of focusing on things you need to work on, relating to everything sad around you. These instances make a person feel that he/she is going through the pain left by the love they had which indeed degrades the opinion on love in a person. Because we take it as negative instead of seeing the hidden positive things in it.
The loneliness excites a person more and soothes a person to come out of love without the involvement of the fellow person which makes a person believe that being single is being happy. Of course, it is. But not for the longer spans. If a person, still feels being alone and single is better than being in love by depicting the pain of love as a reason, then yeah, it says that the person is still going through the pain of love.
Pain of love results in excessive shedding of tears, spreading the tragic vibes, addicting to stuff which numbs the pain emotionally and physically, distracting to things for temporary relief, loosing of unconditional relationships of friends and family and some of the tangent paths but on the positive note, pain of love can transform a person physically, mentally, emotionally, financially, philosophically and in many ways. It's just a person should try hard to get out of the negative effects of pain to explore the positive side.
Embracing the pain of love never makes a person sad for the whole life. It gives solutions, it develops the personality, it increases the emotional strength, it makes a person realize the worthiness of everything around him, it elevates the maturity and understanding capacities, it gives a new meaning to life, it teaches the most important life lessons, it guides for a new way of love life, it personifies the decisions, slowly it also makes a person forget the bad times of love he/she had in past love, it diminishes the stuck up memories gradually and shows the path to form new memories and cherish them. This is love. Like everything else, it has its pros and cons. If a person can happily enjoy the pleasures of love, he must also get prepared to embrace the pain of love too. Because either of them is unpredictable and inescapable too. So, we humans don't have any option left other than embracing the pain gracefully.