Does your love support the life you are trying to create?
Do not get confused between life and love-life. There are indeed two different paths that get merged at one point and also get separated at some point. A person can lead a life without having the aspect of love but a person cannot be in love if there is no life in it. Do you agree with it? Then why most of us end up being with so-called loving partners without having a life in such bonds or romantic relationships or commitments? Now, just look into your relationship once, turn back and examine what you are up to. Match your current life with the life you have always dreamed of or wanted to create. You'll get the answer and it is up to you whether you consider it or not!
We all have passions to fulfill and we chase behind our dreams by facing and overcoming a hell lot of struggles. Some cross all those hurdles and become successful in achieving them but some people always fail in their lives no matter how hard they try. Do you know what can be the reason behind those successes and failures of people? The support. Yes, if you think you achieved your goal without taking anyone's support or help, then sorry, you are completely wrong. This world runs on the support systems, physically, emotionally, mentally, technically and financially too. Are you wondering what love has to do with the support system we humans create for each other to excel in life?
From whom a person expects the utmost support? Obviously, from his/her family, friends and romantic relationships. And every one of them is the outcome of love. That bond makes the other person as our support system is Love. And when it comes to romantic relationships, the constraint of love is comparatively different than other relations. Because it includes all kinds of emotions including sensual and sexual bonds. Romantic relationships can make a person stronger and also weaker too. These include lust, love, attraction, sex, sadness, happiness, anger, ego, frustration, excitement, annoyance, disappointment, care, and affection. A person can encounter and experience every kind of emotion with the other whom he/she is romantically in love with.
Some people understand their partners to the core, they even can complete each other's sentences and can easily sense what the other person is feeling. These people are fortunate enough to get such understanding partners and these can be good support systems too. Hence, we can see many powerful couples in our world among celebrities, business industrialists and many more. But if a person completely relies on his/her loved partner or support system, there are chances that a person can drift away from building his dream empire. In the process of loving and having such a reliable support system, we start neglecting our individual goals and we start working wholly by thinking about everyone who is included in our lives. Sometimes, people have to listen to their loved ones even though they don't like committing to such acts which may drift their paths. But in the end, instead of taking a stand for themselves, they think about love and the support, they nod for other's goals and dump their passions. Do you think that your love must restrict your passions and stop you from creating the life you always wanted to create?
A real support system or a person who truly loves you must respect your opinions, your individual space and goals, your passions and dreams to achieve, your success, your failure, your mistakes and your rewards too. We all restrict ourselves to open up to our partners how we feel and that makes them take us for granted and act differently. If you are unable to express your true self to your partner by thinking that you may lose him/her or get afraid that you may be mistaken or misunderstood, then you are not with the right person. Sometimes, our closed ones also may help us to drown deeply by over-controlling or overpowering or over loving or even over caring. And on the contrary, some of the people with whom we don't get along properly all the time, or people who drive us mad or crazy or people who fight with us or the people who defeat us, can also be our super support systems. We think that they keep messing our lives but sometimes, with all the criticism, judgments, hatred, unnecessary drama, they help our molding our personalities to rethink our passions, dreams, our talents, and skills. These can be your exes or any friend of yours with whom you have a bond with hidden love. And most importantly, we ignore and strike off a few persons' words always but deep down we listen to them and act on them and become successful. These loving critics in our life make us realize what we are capable of. We all have these kinds of people in our life but most of us don't give a damn about them.
Check on them and talk to them once. We humans think whomever we love deeply and with whom we have ultimate sexual and sensual feelings, as the ones who support us to create our life on our terms. You will be proven wrong when you realize that you created something which you never planned to create and never wanted to create. What if you have tried to create an independent, individualistic joyful life and ended up shaping your life as co-dependent, committed, restricted and scheduled? Aren't they quite opposite to each other and have you created this life with the person whom you loved the most? Well, then it's high time to give a second thought about it...
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