Or are you being actively reactive? Because there's a massive difference between being delicate and being strongly opinionated. Unfortunately, all the queerphobic people out there don't, won't, and can't understand this basic difference, especially when they throw various kinds of microaggressions in terms of gender identities and sexual orientations towards the queer community!
Humans are good at playing the blame game and also proficient in throwing others in the pool of guilt. Most of us are quite opportunistic and manipulative, especially while criticizing others. Here, the heterosexuals aren't the only ones who throw judgmental criticism towards the queer community but also the queer people from various orientations pass unnecessary and baseless judgments on each other. And this is the very reason, why people from outside the queer community take an advantage of queer people and their queer lifestyle scenarios!
Unlike the previous eras, where queer people used to be suppressed and oppressed for being queer, in the current scenario, queer people are getting attacked by these microaggressions from others who never understand the reality of the queer community. Have you ever encountered someone telling you that, "you are just being too sensitive", even after you know that the other person has made a serious demeaning comment on your queer life and queer lifestyle? Well, this is the most common thing, any queer person experience in one's life.
Let's talk about your reaction to such a manipulative microaggression. How would you react to it? Do you ignore or do you try to know the other person's intention or do you step up to make that person understand the value of your queer life? Sadly, most queer people, don't like to get into some serious misleading discussions, and hence, they either ignore or stay calm even after knowing that they are being seriously judged.
Of course, arguments are never recommended but some healthy lessons must be taught to the people including the ignorant crowd you personally encounter when they try to degrade and devalue your choice of leading your own queer lifestyle. Nowadays, people want to blend in with others and try to prove themselves that they do befit in this upgrading society, but deep down, they hardly accept the existence of queer people in society. You personally get to know that if you confront a queerphobic person who just exposes himself as a broadminded one but indeed a typical prick, who can never comprehend the aspects of the queer community.
Always remember, a homophobic person never accepts that he/she is homophobic. Indeed, these ardent homophobic people are better than these hidden queerphobic people who never leave a chance to take a dig at every queer person they come across. These people are more dangerous than the people whom we feel as actual threats. So, be aware of them and try to teach them some perfect queer lessons, they deserve to learn, to make sure no other queer person gets attacked further.
If someone tells you that, he or she isn't queerphobic and throws the tactic of depicting you as this sensitive person who reacts to every fragile statement, then make sure, that you prove that you aren't sensitive and you are indeed a person who can handle the criticism in the right way by dealing with it in the most powerful yet graceful manner. The change must come within you. Until and unless you stand up for yourself and strike off all the bullshit any random person throws at you regarding your queer lifestyle, any queerphobic person doesn't stop spreading their microaggression behavior in society. Work for you and also work for others who are like you.
Thankfully, the lines regarding gender identities and sexual orientations are getting blurred day by day. So, it will be easier for every one of us to fight against these silly microaggressions which lead to the rise of queerphobia in society. But this happens only if you step up for yourself and for your fellow queer people. If not, every time a queerphobic person throws a demeaning microaggressive statement, you end up accepting that behavior which encourages that person to throw criticism towards the whole queer community.
Crush those silly senseless attitudes of queerphobic people. Next time if someone tells you that you are just being extremely sensitive for his or her's queerphobic statement and also mention that he or she isn't queerphobic, prove that person is being queerphobic by taking the valid points instead of keeping calm. Ultimately, make him/her realize that he/she must grow up one's mindset to blend in with these widening terms of society!
Plus if you are from the queer community, have a minimum common sense to appreciate and support other queer orientations. If not, you end up contradicting your queer personality by throwing judgmental criticism towards other queer people. If you are gay, you need to respect bisexuals, lesbians, transgenders, and even asexuals like the way how you expect respect from others. If you fail at it, all the homophobic people you encounter and you, being biphobic or transphobic are considered the same, as ignorant.
Homophobia, biphobia, and transphobia can be expected from heterosexuals and you as the queer person must fight against such queerphobic people. But you, being a homosexual, should never act as biphobic or transphobic because that even makes you the queerphobic person like other heterosexuals out there. Just sweep of these baseless phobic attitudes in yourself and others, to make this world a better place for everyone to live and let others live without any judgmental criticism!
Happy International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia and Biphobia!