Appearance doesn't indicate Sexual Orientation!

How many of you got judged by people basing on your looks or dressing manners? Well, the answer is every one of us. Because the societal norms make every person in the society designed in a way to judge the other person on his/her appearance or his/her dressing manners. Unconsciously, every one of us simply forms an opinion after seeing a person from our perspective which includes all these ridiculous norms which everyone has been following for ages. But, we all are forgetting that we are way farther from the stone age civilization days and we are heading towards the unbelievable futuristic world, but still our mindsets regarding appearances and sexual orientations aren't tilting towards modernity.



In this current age, everything is a trend and especially in the context of appearances, multiple varieties of blended looks like androgynous, uni-sexual, gender-queer, gender-neutral, etc. and many more are in the trend right now. Many people are following these trends in every nook and corner of the world. But the real question is, are these people able to breathe properly after getting questioned by many others around them, who judge their sexual orientations basing on how they look and dress? Deep breath out would be a perfect answer to this question because all those people believe in modernity and run their worlds according to trends are the ones who always get judged by others for the way how they lead their lifestyle.



A person who wears a proper shirt and pants and who works in a big MNC corporate every day may get dressed up in mini skirts and bikinis in the night just to enjoy his sexual orientation in a closeted way. NO one in the world knows about him except him because everything is hidden under those shirts and trousers. According to the society, he is a straight man because he looks like one (his dressing style specifies it), but he is indeed a cross-dresser bisexual person. Can anyone even make a wild guess about it? It's impossible, but that is the real fact, the closeted and hidden lifestyle is his original and real-life for him. His cross-dressing fantasies are his wannabe real-life scenarios. But he will never come out because society has already put him under the roof of a straight man who wears clothes which a man opts for. Even though he comes out later as a cross-dresser, his life would be destroyed with inexplicable questions from the people in society. Hence, that person never comes out of the closet and lead his real life just because of these stupid societal norms. This is how a single judgment from society could ruin the real life of a person. This is how an appearance is deciding a person's sexual orientation and making that person lead two kinds of lifestyle at a time and make his life hectic at the end of the day.



Similarly, this happens with the girls who love to wear men's wear and the guys who love to wear uni-sexual clothing lines. They must be straight enough and they wanted to try something gender-fluid just to get rid of their monotonous dressing habits, but those people would be seen as homosexuals just because of their appearances in public. We also named such people as tomboys and sissy men. How weird it really is? So, if a person who opts gender-fluid clothes and who loves to wear makeup or who love to maintain, no filter life is just getting treated as homosexuals as if particular norms have designed by the constitution regarding appearances. This is not letting people who believe in modernity to enjoy the freshness of such booming trends and this is surely killing the vibe to be themselves in between these judgmental societies.


Why the appearance of a person has to decide his/her sexual orientation? A straight looking person may be gay or lesbian or a person who looks effeminate or boyish could be a straight man or a woman altogether. What's so big deal in just approaching a person to ask about his/her orientation instead of coming to an opinion after seeing their appearances. A dumb-looking person can be the smartest and a person who looks like a hunk could be a dumb fuck. A simple dressed girl can be a millionaire who opts to maintain a simple lifestyle. A flashy and elite looking guy can be someone who borrowed his rich friend's legacy to show off. A hard-working guy can be a moron whereas a lazy looking guy can be a sweetheart.



We all becoming too materialistic and also too judgmental when it comes to a fellow person's appearance and his/her dressing sense. Keep only one thing in your mind, like the way how you judge people, there will be another person who judges you the same way. It is quite common, but we can stop it by taking an initiation within ourselves and stop judging people on their appearances. Do not ever link an appearance to sexual orientation because the game of sexual orientation is indeed a confusion. You can never come to clarity until and unless you have some clarity about your mindset. The only common thing between sexual orientation and an appearance is both come with NO RULES.


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